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Is this expecting too much of daycare?

Erika6504Erika6504
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Hailey is in an in-home center.  We've been working on potty training for awhile and she did really well at home.  I didn't push the issue though.  Last week MIL came down and did the final push.  Now Hailey has been accident free since Thursday!!!  I'm not including naptime and bedtime, but IMO this is a huge accomplishment.

At daycare she hadn't been doing as well as she was at home.  She wasn't at daycare last week since MIL was there so this is the first day that she's going after potty training.  I sent her this morning in her training pants with her big girl panties on top.  She gets very sad if she pees on Elmo but I like the thicker training pants b/c they do absorb some pee in case of an accident.  Anyway, I also sent her with 3 extra pair of undies and 3 pair of pants.  I told daycare that I do not want them to use pull-ups except at naptime.

Now, the thing is, Hailey still won't really tell you if she needs to pee.  You have to ask her.  If you ask and she says no, then she's ok, but you need to keep asking every 15 minutes or so until she goes.  Once she goes, she's fine for 45 minutes to an hour.  Sometimes she'll tell you, but it's very, very rare.

My thought is that daycare needs to assist in this.  There are 11 kids and the DCP has 2 helpers.  Between the 3 of them, they should be able to check on the pee status.  Is that expecting too much?  Am I just setting them up to fail if I insist on them not using pull-ups?

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  • JARbabyJARbaby member

    I am in the same siutation. I think your request is totally reasonable! We are going 100% potty over Christmas.

    And on a side note...did you have frost over in Reston? I had to scrape my window today!

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  • MamaNikkiMamaNikki
    I don't think that's asking too much.  DS is in a class of 10 kids and 1 teacher at daycare, and she manages to get all 10 kids to the potty each hour!  She's really amazing in that respect.  She pretty much potty trained DS for us!
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  • Erika6504Erika6504
    imageJARbaby:

    I am in the same siutation. I think your request is totally reasonable! We are going 100% potty over Christmas.

    And on a side note...did you have frost over in Reston? I had to scrape my window today!

    Yes!!!  I probably should have scraped my window but I was lazy and just turned on the defroster!  I was shocked when I walked outside!

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  • kada626kada626 member

    Yes, I think it's reasonable. I consider it part of their job to help if they are with her all day. Potty training doesn't happen overnight.

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  • ridesbuttonsridesbuttons member

    Part of a daycare's job is to help potty train toddlers.  Not every kid is actually going to potty train in 3 days.

    Expect plenty of yucky laundry to be sent home for a while.  But the upside is soon you will be diaper free!  Yay!

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  • howleyshellhowleyshell member

    If they're going to accept children of potty training age they must be prepared to deal with potty training.

    Period.

    Not too much to ask.

    Most day cares will work on a timing system instead of based on asking each individual child in order to accommodate multiple children. 

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  • yeahimamomyeahimamom
    This isn't my board, but I am an in home provider and I think that it's reasonable especially if there are 3 people there with the kids. I ask all of the time 1. because i know that they might have to go, but won't say and 2. because it's so much easier than having to deal with the mess:) They should be helping you out with this!!
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  • jlw2505jlw2505 member
    My girls are in a center and they do more of hte potty training than I did with my older DD who has been trained since March and they are already working with younger DD who is showing a lot of interest.  At daycare, they have the kids on a schedule.  I think asking your child every 45 mins is a lot to be honest.  My center has the kids go every 2 hours and if your child is not telling you she needs to go, she is not ready to be in big underwear at daycare.  Home centers might be different but big girl underwear would not be allowed at my daycare center with the kids not saying they need to go.  I sent my DD in training underwear (the bigt cotten kind) once she was telling us when she needed to go at least half the time. Yes, she had a ton of accidents that week and that was fine with daycare but asking her if she has to go every 45 mins is a lot of work when you have a lot of other kids to care for.  I would give your DD a little more time before you can expect daycare to work with her that much.  I would start by talking to your daycare though to see how much they are willing to do -= all daycares look at potty training really differently and they might be willing to do this but you need to talk to them about it.
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