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Hurt feelings on the NC board

sramasundersramasunder
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I know this is so lame, but I seem to be getting a LOT more emotional lately - must be the 3rd trimester hormone surge!  We just moved to NC from Miami and are 1st time parents with no family or friends in the area.  I was totally clueless about registering and what you really need, etc and BRU is kind of overwhelming to a newbie.  My husband and I found a local store whose owner was super sweet and helpful to us and let us try out every product in her store.  She even recommended items her own store didn't carry.  She price matches all competitors and we were totally impressed.  I posted a rave review about her store on the NC board because I feel like in this economy it is really important to support local businesses from floundering.  Especially if they have the ability to price match. 

Anyway, within a few days I got totally flamed for the post - called "lame" and accused of being a vendor, etc.  Now, not only do I feel terrible, like I did the store a dis-service, but I kind of feel a little "unwelcome" on the NC board.  People were commenting on the fact that I was a new poster with ulterior motives.  Not really - I am a new poster to the NC board because I JUST moved to NC.  

Stupid to have hurt feelings about what strangers think, but I feel bad that they think that the store set that up for advertising.  Sigh.  Whatever.

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  • ELPBELPB
    Personally, I think it's more ridiculous to rip someone apart without actually knowing them and their situation IRL. I'd be upset too...
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  • oohgrrl11oohgrrl11
    I have seen this happen before and sometimes it is legit and sometimes not. Remember, you are emotional and hormonal and so are the other ladies on the board. Since you are not a vendor then don't worry about what they think. It is their loss! You can hang out here with us Smile
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  • kimberlyk921kimberlyk921
    thats ridiculous! they should be grateful that you were just trying to help them out!! i WISH somebody posted information like that more often, i personally love boutiques as opposed to the typical chain stores, and double score if they are willing to price match! well at least you'll get to take advantage of that piece of information. i'm sure after a few days they'll forget who even posted it, try not to let it bother you :)
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  • mefsta777mefsta777
    i get where youre coming from. i only go to the NC board when i really need local info, i enjoy the big boards better honestly. where in NC are you? id love to know about this store :) were in the same boat as you, basically. my family moved here 4 years ago, and now that i got married to a true NC guy, we dont have any friends because we married young and no one really wants to hang with the old married couple :P you can PM me if you want!
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  • KcaraccKcaracc
    hehe yeah some people just like to pick on others.... while we may be a board full of hormones... i think in most cases its pretty fair, except for maybe one or  two  who are popular trouble makers! You can chill on our board... you wont get flamed for silly stuff!  Yes
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  • cutiepi2425cutiepi2425

    Sorry that those girls were crappy with you! I know BRU will ship to almost anywhere ...even Franklin, NC. You did something nice for the NC board... if they dont take advantage well then that's their problem.

    Just be happy its not 95 degrees up there~!

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  • MrsButterfly_BrooksMrsButterfly_Brooks member
    Ditto, you can hang here with us... :)
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  • abrazzabrazz member
    BRU and Target get a lot of free advertisement on here so I wouldn't see why they would get too upset about you talking about a place you got great service.  I would go to a store around here that was locally owned if they matched the prices and would have welcomed the info.  They don't have to go there if they don't want to.  I'm sorry your feelings got hurt. 

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  • JaiKriBabyJaiKriBaby

    I'm sorry you had that experience, but I just saw the post and I think you might be overreacting a bit.  There was one poster who was particularly harsh, but several posters defended you and others appreciated your clarification after you made one.  A lot of the local boards are sensitive to vendor posting because so much of it occurs and while it may be wrong to jump on someone right out the gate, it's understandable.  Perhaps you should make an introduction post on your local so they become more familiar with you.  Just my .2 cents.  Hopefully you can feel comfortable over there again because I'm sure they will be a helpful resource.  Good luck.   

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  • madeleines_mommymadeleines_mommy member
    That's not cool.  People can be such a holes sometimes.
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  • sramasundersramasunder
    imageJaiKriBaby:

    I'm sorry you had that experience, but I just saw the post and I think you might be overreacting a bit.  There was one poster who was particularly harsh, but several posters defended you and others appreciated your clarification after you made one.  A lot of the local boards are sensitive to vendor posting because so much of it occurs and while it may be wrong to jump on someone right out the gate, it's understandable.  Perhaps you should make an introduction post on your local so they become more familiar with you.  Just my .2 cents.  Hopefully you can feel comfortable over there again because I'm sure they will be a helpful resource.  Good luck.   

    I'm sure that I am overreacting =)  and I feel pretty lame being the tiniest bit upset by it!!  I just think some of those responses were unnecessary.  Just ASK me if I'm am vendor instead of jumping to conclusions - I'll give every reference to show that I'm not!  I just think that it is a sad statement that an honest poster can't write an honest review without criticism, just because it was a positive one.  More than that, though, I feel bad that people think that the store kind of set it up.  The last thing I'd want is to do them any harm, particularly among NC mommies, just by trying to be helpful, you know?  I'm sure I'll forget all about it by the end of the day!  This was just a little vent!  Thanks for the perspective!

     

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    imageJaiKriBaby:

    I'm sorry you had that experience, but I just saw the post and I think you might be overreacting a bit.  There was one poster who was particularly harsh, but several posters defended you and others appreciated your clarification after you made one.  A lot of the local boards are sensitive to vendor posting because so much of it occurs and while it may be wrong to jump on someone right out the gate, it's understandable.  Perhaps you should make an introduction post on your local so they become more familiar with you.  Just my .2 cents.  Hopefully you can feel comfortable over there again because I'm sure they will be a helpful resource.  Good luck.   

    I'm sure that I am overreacting =)  and I feel pretty lame being the tiniest bit upset by it!!  I just think some of those responses were unnecessary.  Just ASK me if I'm am vendor instead of jumping to conclusions - I'll give every reference to show that I'm not!  I just think that it is a sad statement that an honest poster can't write an honest review without criticism, just because it was a positive one.  More than that, though, I feel bad that people think that the store kind of set it up.  The last thing I'd want is to do them any harm, particularly among NC mommies, just by trying to be helpful, you know?  I'm sure I'll forget all about it by the end of the day!  This was just a little vent!  Thanks for the perspective!

     

    I agree with you about the unnecessary nasty responses. I wouldn't worry too much about the store's reputation.  Several of the posters said the store was a good one in the post and it seems as though posts move pretty quickly over there.  I'm sure it has been forgotten about by now.  Anyway, it's pretty tame over here, so post away and welcome Wink
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  • kimilanekimilane

    Well, I'm a poster on the NC mommies board, but didn't see your post and it's responses until just now.

    However, have you checked back in on it recently? Quite a few mommies came back after you clarified and corrected themselves. Not to mention, it seemed to mostly be dbertagni & Mrs_M&M that were the ones calling you a vendor.

    Who knows...maybe it was a bad day for them, or they've just seen a lot of vendor shamelessly posting on the boards.

    I'm with PPs, though...I wouldn't let it get to you but so much. We all get reamed for something on one of these boards for one thing or another. Even Puppies & Rainbows gets flamed. Wink

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