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TTC After a Loss
Changed my mind, I'm sad
that some people on this board have actually sunk to the level of one-upping who's loss is more significant or more painful. It makes me so unbelievably sad. I come on here and women who have had multiple losses, late losses and even lost their beautiful angels after they were born give me so much love and support, never trying to say their loss was more significant. I think that is a beautiful thing and I don't want it to go away.
Our journeys are all different, with different struggles, different pain....but I will always support you girls through it and always be thankful for the support I receive.
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Re: Changed my mind, I'm sad
Kelz I hope you can see from most responses that this was a very isolated thought - and while I try to appreciate where everyone is coming from - most of us do not share her thoughts on this one at all.
big hugs.
::comes in late, everyone look up at me::
Umm.. WOW... started to read the first post that started all the drama... not even going to get into this one or bother to read the rest of the posts because I pretty much already know who said what... because over the last few months I have really gotten to know some of you girls pretty well, from these board I could tell you who owns dogs, who drinks starbucks, who loves sushi, who LOVES drinks, who makes scones for their HOT doctors, who is KU after a loss and SCARED to DEATH to move to SAL, who already has a child but is trying to have another, who is newly married, who loves the PATRIOTS...etc etc etc the list could go on for days.
The point is... we are all here together, we all have feelings, we all have broken hearts and we are ALL working towards the same goal. With that said... I think that some feelings got hurt on both sides of the argument. But ladies AT THE END OF THE DAY....we are all still here for the same reason.
I love each and every one of you girls, even if I DONT agree with something you say... You are truly the BEST friends I have... OK yeah so I have no life and I'm LAME. SO WHAT. I still have you girls. And when we fight with each other, its really breaks my heart. GO AHEAD and flame your rear off over on BOTB or anywhere else, shiiiit I encourge it (after all I am a TTCAL girl right?!?!? RIGHT!?!?!?
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Lets all take a deep breath....and move on.
Summer 2011
Don't be sad. We all have our pain and one major characteristic of your own pain is feeling like it's worse than other people's pain. Because for you, it is. It's all good. Don't let it get you down.
Honestly, I think we need shots all 'round.
And to stop
ETA: By the way,
has 1 foal. Just so you know.
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I still think TTCAL is a beautiful board for those who experienced loss through various walks of life. To make lemonade out of lemons, I think what had happened allowed many to express what we all needed to hear or say and remember that having a loss regardless of other aspects in our lives is what ties us together.
I just wanted to say that if it was not for my loss, I would not have met the wonderful ladies on this board. I am often lonely and when someone respond to a post, I feel touched. I hope others feel touched when I respond to them. Sometimes I feel like I say the most awkward thing and I want to be supportive and not the other way around. I am learning to be a more compassionate person because of you all.
OMG I just almost peed my pants laughing. You so funny!!
BFP #2 - 12/9/09 After being on bedrest for 10 weeks due to TTTS and hospital bedrest for 4 weeks due to PPROM, my sticky babies are here! Born at 32 weeks!!
LOL yes I beat a dead horse...sorry ladies.
Just wanted to put my two cents in and missed the OP.
It's ok. I was just trying to make people laugh. I don't like to see people hurting.
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I think, as usual, you have all said it better than I could. Everyone dealing with loss should feel like they belong here, because they DO belong here. I'll just put in that I love you all dearly; want nothing but good, awesome, amazing things for everyone on this board; and know for certain that without each and every one of you, I would still be curled up in a ball crying my eyes out, because I would still feel like no one in the world could understand how I feel.
We're not always going to agree, but then again, what family does?