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3rd Trimester
LDQAM516
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Anyone having their MIL in delivery room?
LDQAM516
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I ask because my MIL invited herself to attend the birth of our first without ever talking to me about it...she is the VP of nursing at the hospital which gives her (she must think) the right to do whatever she pleases. She showed first in the doorway as I was starting to push...she slowly made her way more and more into the room. I have a feeling she is going to do it again and it makes my blood boil. When DS was born I was in so much pain that I did not care who the h** was in the room at that point...that's why I let it slide.
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Re: Anyone having their MIL in delivery room?
Hell no.?
"Wearing his BING CROSBY clothes and crooning...buuuh buuh buuuh"
Absolutely not. The only people in the delivery room will be my DH and myself, other than the medical professionals.
if my MIL tried to pull something like that i wouldn't hesitate to scream at her to get her rear out of the room.
Why don't you just tell her ahead of time that you don't want her there, and that you want this birth to be one that's shared with just you and your DH. (if that's what you want of course)
Me: 37
DH: 36
Married: 08-25-07
DS: 11-20-09
Name change alert: Formerly Lisswastaken
I would be so pissed! Still!!! I would tell the nurses she is not allowed. Oh, and I would be having a group discussion with my husband and her telling her it is NOT ok. If you never told her it bothered you, I'm sure she's planning on doing it again...
No, actually no one but my hubby will be in there with me. We actually may not call people until our little girl is here (or at least until we know for sure she is coming at that time).
I'd be letting her know (off the cuff type convo) how excited you are for the delivery and how you and DH are looking forward to it just being the two of you until he calls people in after the immediate bonding time....
My Mom and DH will DEFINITELY be in the room. Depending on how long my labor takes (My MIL lives 3 hours away) and depending on her state of health, yes she will be in the delivery room.
She watches my three nephews, and I swear to you, they STAY SICK. So, DH has told her if any of them are sick at the time, or if she's still sick at the time, that no, she won't be in the delivery room.
DH wants his sister in there too, but I'm on the fence. I'm not a hundred percent comfy around either SIL or MIL and I'm just not sure how I'm going to handle the pain -- DH and Mom I don't care, but it may be awkward.
I have a feeling this labor is going to go quickly, as I'm almost half way dilated... so maybe I won't have to worry about it
I am!! I was so surprised she did that because she is the type of MIL that stays back and keeps her opinions to herself unless you actually ask her for it. Im too much of a wuss to tell her it bothered me...this is making me want to keep it to just myself and DH.
THIS!
me~ 36 DH~35
Married in 2006, together since 2002
TTC since late 2007
Charting, ovulation testing, etc...
9 cycles of clomid =BFN
Met with RE in Dec. 2008
Diagnosed with lean pcos/ anovulatory
IVF #1 April 2009=BFP!
DD born 1.14.2010
1 snow baby on ice since April 2009
FET scheduled for February 2016
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Ditto the Hell No.
I love my MIL but my take on it is this:
If you weren't in the room when we made this baby, you don't need to be there when he comes out. DH feels the same.
NO WAY! But.....luckily for me, when my DS was born, she was out of town (he came 10 days early....) and this time we are having a scheduled c-sect, so the only person allowed in the room with me is my DH.....
I would be PISSED if my DH didn't say something. I suggest having your DH say something to her now......
THIS.
THIS with a THOUSAND exclamation points after it!!!?
Big emphatic NO!!!
Although I'll admit I'm not looking forward to it. She expects to be called the minute I start having contractions so they can begin the 6 hr drive down to be there as soon as the baby's born. I'm kind of not ok with that but DH is. (sometimes he can be a momma's boy or I think he just doesn't want to deal with drama of saying 'no')
At my shower we were joking about this and I said we'd call her when I'm admitted but that if it was in the middle of the night I'd call her at 7am AT HOME to make sure they weren't taking any chances driving down in the middle of the night. She gave me a half joking annoyed look and said "you expect me to wait that long?" Even DH said to her that they could wait until the weekend to come down to which she spared him the half joking part and planted him with a downright CROSS look and said "do you expect me to wait that long?"
I'm seriously dreading the whole hospital stay on account of *I know* MIL will want to hog all the visiting time. And I know my parents, they'll respect my wishes (anti-social though they might seem) and give me alone time with DH and baby but not MIL. She'll want to be there every second. *sigh* What to do?
I am having DH, my mom, MIL & my cousin to take pictures.
I have had some reservations about MIL in the delivery room b/c she is definitely overwhelming, but, my mom and her really want to be there, and to me, I know that it won't be that big of a deal in the end. :-)
This. Of course she'll be watching DS anyway...and really, I don't think my MIL would be up for dealing with something like that anyway. She's not exactly the nurturing type.
My DH said "she wasn't involved in making the baby why should she be involved with the birth!"
So it will just be he and I and any medical professional. I do wish my mom could be there but I completely understand his perspective of keeping it as private as possible.
Also I made it REAL clear MIL would not be allowed when she video-taped my SIL birth even though SIL didn't want it video-taped. I thought that was sneaky and if it happened to me I probably would never speak to her again.