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Tell me I'm not a bad mom.

Jule_ZJule_Z
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Yesterday I found out that my boss has had H1N1 for a week, and she's been coming to work sick the whole time.  My other (pregnant) coworker and I have been trying to get her to GO HOME and STAY HOME the whole time.  Well, now that she's officially been diagnosed, my midwife prescribed Tamiflu for me.

 I know all of the risks of H1N1, and I know that my chances of contracting it after being in such close contact with an infected person are very good.  At the same time, I can't help but feeling bad about taking Tamiflu.  The pamphlet that came with the Rx clearly states, "not recommended for use during pregnancy."  I know that the benefits outweigh the risks of not taking it. 

I guess the bottom line is that I'm hugely resentful that after being SO CAREFUL my whole pregnancy and not taking so much as a Tylenol for a headache, I'm all but forced into taking Tamiflu due to someone else's irresponsible and selfish decisions.  

This sucks. No

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  • jennasitajennasita member
    I know how you feel.  I had to do it too.
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  • SuzEJSuzEJ

    Your midwife recommended it, right? That should give you some peace of mind. I am a teacher and have been exposed too.

    Nurses tell me (my mom is one) that if you got a reg. flu shot you may have some protection against H1N1.

    Good luck with cold/flu season. I'm worried too...

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  • nattyncbridenattyncbride member
    My H and I were given prescriptions just in case b/c we are going out of the country, and my OB said it was much better than trying to weather H1N1.  I now that's one OB's opinion, but I hope that helps.  I also feel bad for you - very irresponsible of your boss.  I'm sorry, but glad you have a script for Tamifu!!
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  • greeneyes9800greeneyes9800
    I would be furious with my boss for being SO irresponsible around you and your coworker. Maybe she should be reminded that 28 out of 100 pg woman in the US that contracted H1N1 DIED!!! Unreal. Hang in there. I hope you are able to stay healthy.
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  • MrsRebeccaMrsRebecca member

    This is not a flame...but

    Do you actually know the risks of taking Tamiflu while pregnant? Do you know the risk of contracting H1N1? Do you understand the difference?

    I'd educate yourself and learn the risks of both and understand why the risk of taking Tamiflu outweighs the risk of contracting H1N1.

    If it were me, I would just take the Tamiflu. I completely trust both my OB and PCP so if either of them prescribed it and told me to take it- I would.  

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  • beachbum0084beachbum0084 member
    I was in a similar positon and I chose not to take it becasue the pharm said that if it were her she would only take it at the first sign of the symptoms... so thats what I planned on and I never got any symptoms so no tamiflu for me! but its in the medi cab just in case!
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  • MrsRebeccaMrsRebecca member

    imagebeachbum0084:
    I was in a similar positon and I chose not to take it becasue the pharm said that if it were her she would only take it at the first sign of the symptoms... so thats what I planned on and I never got any symptoms so no tamiflu for me! but its in the medi cab just in case!

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    If taken in the first 48 hours of the onset of symptoms is when Tamiflu is effective. You may not even have to take it.

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  • Jule_ZJule_Z
    imageMrsRebecca:

    This is not a flame...but

    Do you actually know the risks of taking Tamiflu while pregnant? Do you know the risk of contracting H1N1? Do you understand the difference?

    I'd educate yourself and learn the risks of both and understand why the risk of taking Tamiflu outweighs the risk of contracting H1N1.

    If it were me, I would just take the Tamiflu. I completely trust both my OB and PCP so if either of them prescribed it and told me to take it- I would.  

    Oh yes...there were lots of tears and there was lots of reading and lots of questions were asked before the decision was made.  DH called his friend the pharmacist and questioned him extensively about Tamiflu, I talked to my midwife extensively about my actual chances of contracting H1N!, and I also talked to my friend the physician, who is also a new mom.  All highly recommended taking it.  I know I'm doing the right thing, it's just still hard. 

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  • EmmieBEmmieB member

    imagegreeneyes9800:
    I would be furious with my boss for being SO irresponsible around you and your coworker. Maybe she should be reminded that 28 out of 100 pg woman in the US that contracted H1N1 DIED!!! Unreal. Hang in there. I hope you are able to stay healthy.

    Ditto.

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  • MrsRebeccaMrsRebecca member
    It's always hard when your decisions affect another life, too. I still worry that my baby will come out with health problems due to having surgery at 23 weeks pregnant but in the end, it was the better decision. And that's all you can do...educate yourself as well as you can, trust your medical advisers and make the best decision you can.
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  • Anniekins214Anniekins214

    I was just going to post this.  (My friend did not know she had H1N1 when we were hanging out.)  But I'm certainly nervous about taking a drug that has no research on how it effects pregnant women.  My doctor was pretty adamant that I take the preventative meds.  I will feel forever guilty if anything happens to my baby as a result of it.

    You're not a bad mom.  I'm not a bad mom.  I don't want to take it either, but I'm uncomfortable going against medical advice...

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