Just throw it away? (longish)

JaysonandKristin · October 2009

Two years ago, my 27 year old cousin left her husband of 8 months for her girlfriend. They now live together, and I've never seen her happier. A year ago, she got a letter from her God Father (our uncle) about how she needs to make better decisions now because they will greatly influence her future, and how she may think she knows what she's doing, but she's young and is making many mistakes... The letter talked about God's disapproval of gays and divorce, blah blah blah... She was very upset.

Her mom (my dad and uncle's sister) didn't say or do anything to protect her daughter's decision. And that's the nature of that brother-sister dynamic.

So, here I sit just having checked the mail to find a card from the same uncle with a typed note inside - the likeness of my cousin's letter. And, I'm reluctant to open it. In fact, I'm thinking of just throwing it away having never read it.

If he had something to say it would just P!SS me off, and my dad would fly to WA to rip is brother a new one - that's the nature of that sibling relationship. I just want to avoid the situation altogether...

Just throw it away?

JulieandBen · October 2009

Burn it and don't look back. It sounds like your uncle has nothing to spread but narrow minded hate.

mybabyloveonline · October 2009

yes, throw it away!

lissah23 · October 2009

I would read it, but I'm a sucker for punishment.

I got a letter from my aunt a few years ago to the same effect and read it. I didn't like it, but it certainly helped me to seal my decision on whether she'd continue to be a part of my life or not.

Denae'sTTC · October 2009

I would have to read it!!!!! But thats me...He seems like a jerk.. Getover it and get a life and stop caring so much about others decisions that dont effect you

mommyof2texans · October 2009

I'd make sure there isn't any type of gift (check or money) that you may need to either return if you choose or acknowledge but I would definitely throw way the letter without reading it.

hriesen4 · October 2009

I would read it, but that's just me. I hate not knowing stuff like that. In fact, just b/c you aren't reading it and sharing gets at me a little bit! Ha.

Nah, if he's that much of an a-hole...you should probably skip it.

ecoppins · October 2009

I'd read it. But I too am a sucker for punishment/amusement. If my aunt sent me a letter disapproving of my life, etc, it would give me countless opportunities to quote it and chuckle to myself. Like a pp said, it would be able to cement your response to him in your life.

If you aren't able to steel yourself against his anger and hatred, I wouldn't. You may just want to throw it out.