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howa0155
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So glad I'm doing this by myself
howa0155
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I literally take care of DS 19 + hours a day. I keep telling DH that I need a break and I'm not sure if he doesn't get it or is just an arse. So what happens? DH comes home today and doesn't even hold DS so I can fing eat. We then have a conversation about me not being interested in sex because I'm exhausted and the only break I get is to sleep. Right after, he leaves. To go where? Don't know. He is getting an earful tonight. And likely a day at home alone with DS so he gets it.
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Re: So glad I'm doing this by myself
Ive actually been meaning to write this exact post!! I think my DH thinks of DD as a new toy, he likes to play with her, but when it comes to the dirty work, hes no where in sight. I plan on having a good talk with him tonight about this.
How hard is it to say "hey honey, you seem tired, let me do this feeding/dishes/laundry/diaper change"....Im so stressed because of him.
I hear you! For the most part, my DH is great but he is slacking lately.
Don't you love it when they want sex and you haven't even been able to brush our teeth all day. Ya, that's sexy!
You have a vagina and boobs. I havent groomed my lady parts since a day before DD came so I look like an ape and boobs are GINORMOUS and veiny, but somehow that s extremely sexy to DH
DH and I got into a fight about this. He was laid off and has been having a hard time. Not only has he not been working, but he was slacking in the parenting department.
We finally sat down and had a heart to heart. I just told him that if I wanted to do this alone I would have just had a one night stand. I wouldn't have married someone and then planned to have a baby.
Things have been much better since then. Hopefully your DH will come around.
Besides, the #1 reason why women stop having sex is because they feel like they don't get enough help at home.
I left the house for a couple hours and just that little time was enough for DH to say, "Now I see what you have to deal with all day."
Maybe that's all your H needs!
Matthew Kevin
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Met 1/8/00
Engaged 4/21/06
Married 9/29/07
Two beautiful legacies: Noah Matthew (2 yrs) and Chloe Marcella (8 mos)
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DH insisted I take the night off tonight and go out and have fun. So I did. I get home and get into bed and ask him who is taking first baby shift, coming around to the point that it was going to be him. Nope. He's like, "can you do it?" in his sleepy whiney voice he uses when he's trying to pretend like he's still half asleep and can't be responsible for his words. Blah.
I was pissed and told him, "I thought this was supposed to be my night off?" thinking I'd get the 5 AM feeding or so. And he sounds frustrated and says, "Fine, I'll do it." I mean, seriously, I think I've gotten like two hours of sleep straight each night this week, and a little bit of nappage on the side. Are you kidding me?!
Whatever, DH. Finally, I just get fed up and get up, get dressed, turn the monitor off and leave the room. He's like, "where are you going?" and I ignore him. Can't have bothered him that much, 'cause he's right back asleep. And I get downstairs because I know DS is going to wake up any second now and what do I realize? All the effing bottles are dirty.
Seriously. Thanks for helping out, but no thanks, you know?