Question about this "fake" drinking deal...

MsMoseley · October 2009

In your first trimester, when you went out in public, or dinner, parties..etc... Did you "fake" drinking alcohol? Or did you just not drink, and keep it moving?... I dont understand why if you pass on a drink people will automatically assume your pregnant.....

I never did this, I just skipped, and never was asked "WHY ARENT YOU DRINKING?!!"....

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madalynnsmommy09 · October 2009

I never ran in to the problem because we told people early. But I would of never had to fake it. It was NEVER expected that I drink.

Liss_37 · October 2009

I never had this problem because I've never been much of a drinker, so it's completely normal and not out of the ordinary for me to just order a coke or something when I go out.

MsMoseley · October 2009

I just dont get why if a woman passes on a drinking, people assume that she is pregnant

OR..

pregnant women assume, that they will assume, she is pregnant...

SmallandNeedy · October 2009

I just ordered a water and let people think what they wanted. Sure I got some questions, but my response to "Are you PG?" was always, "Hopefully!"?

shainababygirl · October 2009

I was much more meticulous about caffiene in the first trimester than I am now... so had I went out with a bunch of friends to Starbucks and ordered a decaf or a steamer... they would have known automatically.

In my first tri, I was still in college and under college rules wasn't allowed to drink (if you were seen at Applebee's with a beer or something, you could have been but on suspensions and stuff, it was stupid) so it was never a problem with me... I'm not a drinker anyway... but I probably wouldn't have faked it if I were.

Alex17 · October 2009

MsMoseley:

I just dont get why if a woman passes on a drinking, people assume that she is pregnant

OR..

pregnant women assume, that they will assume, she is pregnant...

I think it depends on the person. If you are a social drinker, happy hour, etc and it's normal for you to order a drink then your close friends or coworkers are going to notice.

chef'swife · October 2009

We told people pretty much right after we found out cause DH couldn't keep a secret. But our friends would have asked what was up if I didn't have a beer or glass of wine on a night out.

aggielauren · October 2009

Maybe when people are used to the woman drinking at social events, that's what raises questions. The first time we went out with my DH's friends after I found out I was pregnant, I asked for water and they asked "are you sick or pregnant?"

I think it just depends on people being used to seeing the woman drinking. Or maybe it's an age thing? I don't know.

ETA: I never faked drinking, though.

AfterAll · October 2009

I am not a big drinker to begin with... I don't drink wine, coffee, beer, occasionally I will have a mixed drink of champagne, so no one wondered why I wasn't drinking.

4realyo · October 2009

I didnt really drink that much before pregnancy, so no one ever thought anything of it. Im alwasy the designated driver.

I know for some people it would be a dead giveaway - but they're mostly drunks.

erinb31 · October 2009

I didn't fake and was not questioned, either. However, I didn't really hang out regularly at a bar or anything that I suddenly wasn't drinking. I just acted like I was in the mood for other non-alch. drinks when out to dinner or over friends' for the first bit of time. We also did tell friends around 8 weeks, which is pretty early.

Kingston54 · October 2009

I just skipped the drink. No one ever asked.

Holly Calkins · October 2009

A week after I found out I was pregnant, an old college friend returned to the states from a long trip to India and wanted to catch up at the local bar we used to hang out at! I wan't ready to tell anyone yet, so I took my beer bottle with me to the bathroom, filled it with water, and took swigs from that all afternoon!

My trick worked perfectly, and I thought I was really slick... but the next day I realized I'd have to tell him eventually and felt pretty foolish! We had lunch the next day and I came clean.

armourall · October 2009

The only time I've ever been asked, "why aren't you drinking?" was when I was in Australia, but it's a diffrent culture over there.

I just skipped, but I don't drink normally so no one cared.

nadiarl · October 2009

Yeah, none of my friends or family are big drinkers. It wouldn't be unusual for anyone to not imbibe. Maybe this is for the former binge drinkers or party animals, some women did seem really concerned about it.

hriesen4 · October 2009

I'm not a "big drinker." I will have a glass of wine/sangria when I got out to dinner w/ my girlfriends. I'll have a beer w/ Dh and the guys if we go out for wings or something.

The guys never noticed, the girls definitely did. But they're my girlfriends for a reason!

Mystery2B · October 2009

I told people that DH and I were doing a "cleanse" type thing with no caffiene, booze, refined sugar, etc. And even with that I got pestered. I think people suspected but no one said anything (we didn't tell people till 14 weeks).

kob227 · October 2009

I told close friends pretty early on about my pregnancy, so they didn't expect anything. But when I went to a party with all of our BIL's friends (who we hang out with every couple months) and was only drinking water, one girl said "Wait, she's drinking water. Why are you drinking water??" DH and I were so giddy we couldn't hold back the grins...she then started yelling "You're pregnant, aren't you!?! You're having a little (our last name)!!!" Another girl smacked her and said "Some people like to keep that a secret until they're comfortable sharing" but obviously it was too late, the whole party knew.

jenny1980 · October 2009

Unless sick, pre-pregnancy I was not a girl to turn down a glass of wine. People would have suspected immediately. I didn't fake it, but I did make up a BS story about cutting way back on booze following our Ireland trip.

AbsoluteLM · October 2009

In the industry I work in there are a lot of happy hours for networking and champagne brought in to celebrate peoples' birthdays. In the beginning, when I didn't want my work colleagues to know, I would go to the bar and order a cranberry and tonic to keep inquiring minds from prying.

CJ2008 · October 2009

we told people almost as soon as we found out, so it was no big deal, but I bet people would ask if I refrained from drinking on more than one occassion, as I used to drink ALL the time (when we were out).

ibis · October 2009

I was asked if I was pg at 4 wks because I went out to a club with some friends and didn't have anything to drink. I had to lie at that point - and good thing, because I m/c that baby.

My ILs RELENTLESSLY harrassed me about drinking when we were TTC after our loss. I was trying not to drink for any of my 2ww's but I didn't want to get into it with them. My H finally yelled at them to stop asking me because they just would not stop asking or even take no for an answer, every time I saw them.

fiftysixty · October 2009

I'm not a big drinker, so I was never asked either. Though I guess if you pretty much always have alcohol when you go out, people would be curious over a sudden change. It'd be like DH suddenly passing on beer when we went out for wings. You just know something is up.

WILDEJ · October 2009

Yeah I faked it. I'm not ashamed. We didn't tell anyone until 14 weeks. I could have went once or twice without people thinking something was up but after a while they would have known for sure.

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