Question for the wine drinkers...

ColTim32 · October 2009

So, I'll have an occasional glass of wine during my pregnancy. Tonight, we are going to dinner to celebrate my DH's birthday. Now that I'm getting rounder and obviously pregnant, I'm afraid I'll get "looks" from strangers or possibly our waiter if I order a glass at dinner. Should I care?? I don't think it's anyone elses business, but for those of you who drink wine on occasion, what do you other ladies do? Do you feel weird ordering a glass in public. I never drink at home, because who wants to waste a whole bottle for one glass. My DH doesn't drink wine.

Mrs.Keith2B · October 2009

I don't give a ratsass what other people think. After all, I'll never see those people again, so who cares?

MsMoseley · October 2009

Wear black Yes

....its harder to tell your pregnant once you sit down lol

rapst1 · October 2009

To be honest, I get embarrassed to order wine if we go out to dinner, and right now, people might just think I am overweight, I have a bump, but it is not an obvious baby bump. I did go to a networking function not too long ago and I got a glass of wine, my coworkers kinda made a big deal about it, but I just said it's not bad to have a glass now and then. I wouldn't worry about it, it's a special occassion. Celebrate!

angie05161 · October 2009

I drank a few glasses of wine in public around 20 weeks, but haven't since. I've been abstaining from wine ever since. DH also doesn't like wine, so I would waste an entire bottle at home. I also don't want the looks and I felt guilty when I would have a glass occasionally.

bannedmonkey · October 2009

I haven't had a drink during this pregnancy so it hasn't been an issue.

I suspect you will get looks though.

JLG95 · October 2009

I've been on the wagon the whole pregnancy, but I think the best way to deal with that is if anyone makes a snide remark, say

"I'm not pregnant, it's a tumor (cyst, parasitic twin, etc)." Stick out tongue

p0nd77 · October 2009

I've ordered a glass a wine and haven't gotten any looks, but I live in a pretty urban area where no one is really paying that much attention either. I don't see how it is really anyone's business, but yours and your husbands.

AbsoluteLM · October 2009

I walked into a bar at about 20 weeks and didn't have a drink... but still felt uncomfortable! In my case, I was uncomfortable b/c it was like every male in the room scurried away as if pregnancy was catching. Lol.

Max'smom · October 2009

I don't drink wine while pregnant but have friends that would have the occasional glass. My thought is: Would you have the same glass of wine in front of friends and family? If you would why would you care what strangers think.

SethandSara · October 2009

You would have laughed at all the looks I got when I walked into a liquor store with my husband when I was about 6 months pregnant. It was quite funny! If you're concerned about someone saying something to you, maybe you could sit in a seat where they can't obviously tell you're pregnant or you could just say "Screw them!" and kind of chuckle at how uncomfortable you make them.

cleigh11 · October 2009

Who cares what strangers think of you? I've ordered a glass of wine while out and have an obvious belly. As long as you and your OB are okay with your decision, nothing else matters!

Kristin131 · October 2009

Lol DH is chomping at the bit for someone to say something to me since he is a Dr. and chances are they are not haha.

DH always has wine when we go out and a lot of times I'll just have a sip or 2 of his. Although sometimes he will get a bottle (bc in PA you can re-cork it and bring it home if you don't finish) and I will have the server pour me a small glass. I've been lucky with the waitstaff we've had as they are like "go for it who cares!". I do feel a bit self conscious sometimes but then I think ya, who cares. Especially if it is a nice celebratory dinner.

shimmerairbrush · October 2009

You can always say "who cares what other people think?" but the truth is, most of us do. We want other people to know we are good parents and not out to harm our children. Even though a glass of wine occasionally has never been said to harm a fetus!! If you really want the wine, but are nervous about the looks, have DH order it (the waiter will think it's for him) and then you can put it in an coffee cup. I'm a wine drinker, although haven't drank with this pregnancy yet, but dh loves wine so i can drink it at home and not worry about wasting a bottle...GL

Kristin131 · October 2009

I just thought of DH's idea for a response to any comment:

"Well then I guess I'm just a bad parent!"

sara_smile · October 2009

My DH's birthday is tomorrow and I fully intend on ordering a glass of wine at Red Lobster!

I say if you notice someone giving you the side-eye just make the motion with your glass like "Cheers!" Drinks Toast them! (I hope I get to do this, like PP said, just to laugh at how uncomfortable I make them.) Devil

barefootbride2008 · October 2009

I have never gotten a look or comment or anything when having a small amount of wine at dinner. I did have a bottle of non-alcoholic beer at a bar one night and I got a lot of looks (no one would have known it was NA)! It was kind of hilarious. Personally, I say f*ck 'em - it is none of their business anyway.

yourmom5309 · October 2009

I say order the wine. Admittedly, I do feel awkward when ordering and drinking - but I forget all about that when the deliciousness hits my lips. Forget about strangers and have a great night.

ColTim32 · October 2009

sara_smile:

My DH's birthday is tomorrow and I fully intend on ordering a glass of wine at Red Lobster!

I say if you notice someone giving you the side-eye just make the motion with your glass like "Cheers!" Toast them! (I hope I get to do this, like PP said, just to laugh at how uncomfortable I make them.)

LOL! This is funny, I may use this advice!

scchapman · October 2009

Don't even worry about it. I went out last week with my girlfriends and ordered a glass of wine and no funny looks from anyone. They even told the waitress that i was their designated driver because I was the pregnant one.