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Toddlers: 24 Months+
NTR: A tale of one boy and one girl...
Totally not toddler related, but you girls are so good at advice;)
Looooong story short: Back in college, girl has crush on a hot, sun-tanned, surfer Spanish boy. Asks him out (worked together as lifeguards) and he obliges. Strong friendship grows. Boy is very strong in his faith (Christian) and girl is decently Catholic (close enough LOL!). After 3 months of dating, boy never even tries to kiss girl on the lips, but lots of those forehead/little sister kisses ensue. Tons of hugging, hand-holding. (Okay, this is turning into a longer story than I thought... bear with me...) Boy and girl both love to run; so much so that instead of partying with the rest of the college kids, boy and girl go running together all.the.time. At 3am when bored, in the rain, on the beach. Literally any time. Romantic (but not really). Beautiful memories are created between the two. Like soul mates of sorts. Hiking all the time. Kayking. Sneaking up into the faculty hot tub at top of mountain overlooking ocean... you get the gist (sp?). Friends tease girl that boy is gay. Girl agrees but doesn't care. She loves this boy as a friend.
Maybe 1-2 years later (post-graduation), they drift apart. No talking for 9 months or so. She tries. He doesn't respond. Finally a call from boy to girl. "Uhh, hi there! How are you? I miss you!!!" "...I am sick. Like really sick." I instantly knew. "Who got you sick? Who was she?" "...It wasn't a 'she'." I knew it!!!! "OMG!
" "How are you handling it?" "I'm okay. I need to get out of L.A. and move back near my mom (an RN)." "Are you okay?" "Yeah, totally fine. Don't worry. I'm taking really good care of myself. I want to come see you before I move." He comes to my apartment and meets my BF (now DH). DH loves him. All the girls at the party have an instant crush on my Latin hottie! He's a true doll;)
Another 4 years pass without him returning any of my calls/emails. I fear the worse. His HIV is now full-blown AIDS, or worse, he died. DH keeps telling me that he is in good hands with his mom (and God) watching over him.
Finally, last month, on FB, a message. It's him! He's doing awesome, living in his hometown beach city near his mom, teaching kickboxing and just "being". His pictures on FB are gorgeous, a very-healthy looking, chiseled-bodied man. We chatted it up for like a week, every day. Nothing since. Been a month now. I will be heading up north in his direction in March for a wedding, when my next baby is like 6 wks old, with our 2.5 yr old, and with DH.
My secret fantasy is to go visit him for like 2-3 days and just hang-out with him, alone, for old-time's sake. I fear that once he does lose his battle with this horrible disease, I will regret not having done so. However, that's not realistic. I have responsibilites, a DH, will have 2 beautiful babies who need me. WWYD?
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Re: NTR: A tale of one boy and one girl...
That should be a movie!!
I think you should try to hang out with him! At least do dinner and maybe hang out afterwards, ya know?! Your DH would understand! Kinda weird how he just diappears after awhile though. Maybe it's when he gets sick or something... (sorry I know nothing about AIDS).
P.S. I think they have good meds for this now, and there's a good chance that will live for a very long time.
#1 well, obviously you were close back in the day. do you know if he wants to hang for an entire weekend ? doesn't sound like he keeps in touch really well. (sorry, that reads harsh.. don't read it harsh).
#2... people living with HIV are living longer and "healthier" lives these days. I wouldn't assume he's a sickly person just b/c he has hiv.
#3 myself, with a 6wk old... I would not be staying overnight away. Maybe plan a friend date night while you're there.
have you talked to your dh about his opinion?
everything Halo said - perfectly.
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Wow! You should write a screenplay and send it EVERYWHERE! lol
I think I would also do a friend day date and see how it goes. Its been a long time and the commun. hasnt been great on his part...if it goes great then it can turn into dinner maybe...Unfort. the timing is just off on your part with the new baby, etc.
Hope it all goes well.