Someone help me get off this roller coaster ride.

mrstyson03 · October 2009

Why do I keep doing this to myself? After every drs appt I'm super happy for about 2 weeks. Then I start to doubt a little bit. Then the next thing you know, I'm worrying every day about whether our not Sweet Pea is still okay. By the week of my next appt, I'm always a paranoid, super frightened, hot mess! So here I am again with an appt on Friday, and today I'm sitting here at work absolutely freaking out. I haven't gained any weight. I have no symptoms. I haven't felt any movement yet. I'm so terrified of getting bad news on Friday. Good grief, is this how it's going to be the whole pregnancy?

Oh and my friend who's pg and 1 week ahead of me posted a pic on fb. Her bump's twice the size of mine, and we're about the same body size. Is my Sweet Pea okay?

Scout05 · October 2009

I am no help, as I am a paranoid fool right now. But remember that everyone's body adjusts to pregnancy differently, so it's okay that your friend's bump looks different from yours.

I'm sure your Sweet Pea is just fine, and Friday will bring another great appointment.

BensBride2007 · October 2009

Try not to worry too much. We've all been there! My DH and I get into such bad moods because we worry so much for a week before each appointment. You should start feeling movement within the next few weeks so don't panic because you can't feel anything yet. Try to think positive thoughts.

adorsey2000 · October 2009

Aw..hon! I am sure your sweet pea is just fine. I am the exact same way as you. I have to keep telling myself every pregnancy is different!! Good luck at your appointment on Friday!

abs711 · October 2009

I wish I had some advice. But I feel the same way. No matter what I do or say to myself I can not believe I am really pg and that nothing bad is going to happen. I think I am making up problems to convince myself something is wrong. Sorry you feel this way and I hope Sweet Pea is ok Smile

jerseylinds · October 2009

Don't stress Jacelyn!!! I'm sure Sweet Pea is just takin his/her time. Instead of it happening gradually, sweet pea wants to make a GRAND announcement in your belly with huge kicks and lots of movement and then make you wake up morning and not let you see your feet. People's body's are differnt so don't compare yourself to your friend cuz you'll just stress yourself out. Remember, today you are pregnant and be sure to celebrate it. I hope Friday comes SUPER quick for you, so you can have piece of mind...i'm thinkin about ya babe!!! Sending good thoughts your way....

Emmab12 · October 2009

All I can tell you is that there is no need to worry over something that you can't control. I am sure your LO is just fine, and positive thoughts are always better than negative ones...that being said, I am nervous a lot of the time too, when I have a day when I don't feel sick, or a day when my energy is back, but all in all I try to put my faith in God, and try not to let my insecurties take over enjoying my pregnancy!! :-)

Good Luck sweetie!

PurpleK26 · October 2009

I started feeling little kicks soon after I hit 18 weeks, so you don't have too much longer. I was the same way, but now that I feel her every day, I don't worry nearly as much. So, no, I don't think you're whole pg will be this way, but it may be for another few weeks.

Breathe!!!

MrsGhappilyeverafter · October 2009

I'm sorry hun. I know the feeling. I still freak out before appointments. I'm sure your little one is doing great. My OB said it's normal not to really show until 20 weeks because that's when the uterus reaches the belly button. She told me people who show before that just eat too much, lol. I'm not sure how accurate that is though

. It is still early to be feeling movement, but you can ask your OB about it at your appt and see what he/she says. We're here for you! ((HUGS))

kristinem17 · October 2009

I hear ya' girl! I am always worried about the size of my bump.. wonder why some ladies seem to have much larger bumps than me.. of course each body will progress differently, it depends not just on height, but weight and how much tummy muscles you had vs tummy chub... and then also I worry maybe it's because I am not eating enough or eating the wrong things... yep, always scared what if something is wrong.. .I am right there with ya girl! You have an appointment, all is well and on track and you're good for a few days, than just before the next appointment the fear/panic sets in again. I SO hear ya! I guess the best thing is to stay busy, be it with work or friends or some good tv.. try not to think about it (easier said than done) and just be happy

And I'm not feeling movement yet either.... !!!!!!

myafoo · October 2009

I am with you completely! I guess this is part of pregnancy, huh? It's so hard not to get yourself all worked up. I do it all. the. time. I'm sure your little bean is doing great! In the meantime, keep your chin up and try to remember those SAL mantras! (((BIG GIANT HUGS)))

mrstyson03 · October 2009

Thanks for talking me down ladies. I feel better all ready. You all are the best!

ashley0616 · October 2009

Oh hon, I know the feeling! With DD I got nervous belly before every appt. Butterflies, nausea, the whole bit. You just can't help thinking "What if?!" I'd like to tell you it gets better, but you'll always find new things to worry about. No matter what part of your pregnancy you are in, or parenthood. I think anxiety is just part of the game.

Think about it this way: there are LOTS of reasons why you haven't gained weight or aren't showing yet. 1. (with the weight) maybe you are just lucky. It'll catch up with you, don't worry! 2. Maybe you have a retroverted uterus, so it'll take longer for a bump to appear. 3. Didn't you just say that people were telling you you looked pg? Maybe you just don't have a bump to you? 4. You might not be feeling anything yet due to an anterior placenta. With DD I didn't feel anything until nearly 22 weeks because that darn placenta was in the way.

You'll find out the answer to all of these questions on Friday at your u/s, so hopefully that will help aleviate your fears. Will they let you take a DVD so you can have a copy of the u/s to take home and watch? I bet that will make you feel better inbetween appts after this one.

Everyone and every pregnancy is different. Try not to compare yourself to others, I know that's incredibly hard but you have to try. Smile And you have all of us to talk to when you think you're losing it.

wisher · October 2009

mrstyson I know it is hard but you need to enjoy your pregnancy. I had the same problem. One day my friend said the one thing I need to do is enjoy being pregnant. I took that to heart and try to start every day with it's a great day and I love my baby. It took me a few weeks but now I hardly every worry. I hope this helps and I completely understand how you feel since my bump is way smaller than everyone else close to me. I just tell myself that is a good thing and my doc hasn't complained about the size. I should be glad I'm not over expanding. ((HUGS))

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