would you be upset w/ your Dh? Am i being silly?

redhead0525 · October 2009

we just found out that I am probably being induced Thursday...2 days away and I am freakin out! I feel like there are so many last minute things to do like hang stuff in baby's room, pack, install carseat etc...sooooo tonight is DH's weekly card game and he didnt even ask if he should skip it or if I wanted him to stay home........I feel like we should spend some last minute time alone, completing things etc.....Im stressed and nervous and he knows that too...ughhhhh am I being silly?

otherhalf · October 2009

I would be frustrated for sure!

wnk1029 · October 2009

If you told him exactly what you told us and he still decided to go to the card game, I'd probably be a little annoyed.

If you haven't told him, though, I don't think you can expect him to come to that realization on his own.

Alex17 · October 2009

I would want my DH to stay home.

Maybe he is just freaking out too, did you ask him to stay home yet?

A S-ski · October 2009

No-not being silly at all. If there is still stuff to do and you're being induced in less than 48 hours seems like he needs to be there. I'd be pissed.

StephanieDeanne · October 2009

I understand you're stressed out finding out you have much less time to get ready (i'd probably be a nervous wreck too) but he may not get to go to his card game and spend time with his buddies all that much when your LO is here, I'd probably let it go for now. But that's just me.

LizLovesJason · October 2009

No, I would be upset too. I'm a month away from my due date and already panicking about all the stuff we still have to do. If I knew I was having the baby in 2 days, I would definitely want DH to help me get things done tonight. His game is every week, right? It's not like it's a once-in-a-lifetime thing!

Mystery2B · October 2009

I'd just ask him to plan to be home with you tomorrow night and let him know what you want his help with.

You've had months to have alone time with him, so I don't think it's reasonable to ask him to skip his regular game/activity (although I would next week with LO home).

erinshaneb · October 2009

No I would definately be a little peeved..he may think this is his last "free" night but if there are things to do then there are things to do..parenthood normally starts before the baby actually gets here..

TgerLilyXx · October 2009

A little silly, yes. If you wanted him to stay you should've said that and explained why. Chances are that he's just as freaked out and wants to try to have one last night of normalcy.

greycoral · October 2009

unless you asked him to stay home and help you, and he went anyway, i think you're being silly. As much as we'd like them to be, our husbands/boyfriends are not mind readers lol they don't realize all the stuff that still has to happen before baby comes, especially if you've been the one getting things organized!

so he's gone for a few hours tonight. big deal. make him work his butt off with you tomorrow!

voelkels · October 2009

I would be upset because I feel needy, but they need their time too, they need to blow off steam.

star678 · October 2009

I would be bothered. I am sure your DH feels like this is his last chance at a card game with the guys for a while, so that makes sense, but if it were my DH I would be upset if he didn't at least ask me if I'd prefer for him to stay, or offer to stay.

mommys.gummy.bear · October 2009

i would more than likely be upset, as well. we have two months left before my EDD and i'm currently pissed at DH that he's procrastinating on things that should be a priority.. like getting the nursery painted. he tells me not to ride him about it, but it seems to me that its not going to get done unless i continue to stay on his heels.

redhead0525 · October 2009

yay, i didnt tell him to stay home but iu just wish he would realize the right thing to do without me telling him.....its just frustrating...oh well, i guess ill get over it and get the things done i can do myself tonight.......

getnmarried910 · October 2009

Would I be annoyed? Yes, very much so. Would it be justifiable. I'm not sure. I would feel justified, but maybe he is feeling stressed as well and needs to go as an outlet.

ladyalmalthea · October 2009

He is going to see it as a last chance to hang with the guys for a bit. Ask him to stay home if that is what you want, rather than assuming he'll think of it on his own.

sjp · October 2009

id be pissed!

lcmeg · October 2009

i don't think its needy or silly at all. i would be really hurt, actually. if he knows there are a lot of things that still needs to be done and still doesn't even ask you or figure out on his own that he needs to be home, i think that's definitely worthy of being upset over. its kind of common sense... you need to tell him what's up.

iuplori · October 2009

Yeah, sometimes it would be nice if they would just figure these things out on their own without us telling them, but alas, we just can dream.

Make sure you schedule something to do with him, just the two of you before LO's arrival. A date or something special.

aes62679 · October 2009

stephaniedeanne:
I understand you're stressed out finding out you have much less time to get ready (i'd probably be a nervous wreck too) but he may not get to go to his card game and spend time with his buddies all that much when your LO is here, I'd probably let it go for now. But that's just me.

This! Once the baby arrives he may not have as many chances to do things like hang with the guys.... Let him take advantage of that time now, the baby things will get done in time.

Alex17 · October 2009

redhead0525:

yay, i didnt tell him to stay home but iu just wish he would realize the right thing to do without me telling him.....its just frustrating...oh well, i guess ill get over it and get the things done i can do myself tonight.......

Like PP said, men are not mind readers. If you wanted him to stay home you should have told him that.

Just do what you can tonight and then let him know when he gets home that you will need his help tomorrow night.

blublusher · October 2009

i might be a little annoyed but if I havent actually told him that I want to stay home then I don't think I have the right to be upset. We are talking about men after all...they don't get it unless you spell it out.

SarahSmile907 · October 2009

I would be upset but like PP's have said, guys don't quite "get it", sometimes we have to spell it out. Plus, he might be feeling like this is his last chance to play for awhile, knowing the baby is coming. I know my DH has been going out more lately with his friends. When we talked about it, he realized he felt like he should get his "going out" in while he can. I'm ok with that since we talked about it. You should do the same, give him the chance.

qtjess1110 · October 2009

I would be extremly annoyed. You are not being silly.

JulieandBen · October 2009

My husband would be at rugby if there were two nights to go. One night and he'd be home with me enjoying our last night. Actually that's how it happened with us last time.

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