The latest: D&C tomorrow.

joyfulnature · October 2009

Hi, Girls.

Well, it has been a rough few days for me. But resolution is in sight.

After that significant drop on Saturday, my betas have been climbing again. (But not to the point where Saturday's number was a lab error. And also, unfortunately, not to the point where there is any hope that this is a viable pregnancy.)

At first the docs were talking ectopic again. But after pestering from yours truly, they did another ultrasound and saw what may be a tiny sac in my uterus. The doctor said if it is what he thinks it is, it hasn't progressed beyond what it would be when one first gets a positive pregnancy test. I pressed him, and he said, just like the many other docs and nurses I've been bugging, that no amount of waiting will make this turn out.

Because my numbers are hovering, something should be done so that this doesn't linger on for weeks. Also, because the lining of my uterus is very, very thick, the doc says I would bleed profusely if we wait for this to happen naturally. On his advice, I will be having a D&C tomorrow morning, early.

Please keep me in your T&P.

The good news:

1. I can get pregnant.

2. My uterine lining is very good.

3. The Limbo Hell I have been in should end tomorrow.

There is a small chance that even after the D&C, my numbers won't drop properly. That would indicate ectopic again, and other steps would have to be taken. But the doc said based on my ultrasound today, he really thinks this will take care of things.

We can start TTC again as soon as my cycle returns.

Anyone who has had a D&C, if you wouldn't mind telling me what to expect, that would be great.

Thank you all for your continued support. You are my link to sanity.

Joyful

ToshaGirl · October 2009

I am soooooo glad you have a plan, though I am sad that it went this way.

Getting out of limbo hell was a big thing for me, it really helped to be able to focus on looking forward.

You know where to find me if I can do ANYTHING at all.

(((hugs)))

panda246 · October 2009

Wow, Joy...that's a lot to digest.

I have no experience with d&c, but what the doc. is suggesting makes sense. I will pray for safety and strength for you and your DH as you go through this.

MDBeachbride · October 2009

I'm very sorry for your loss. IMO, a D&C is really a piece of cake. You go in, get put to sleep, wake up, wear a pad for a few days and then it's over. Physically. BUT emotionally it takes a while. Not only because your sad about the loss but because of the hormones dropping quickly and making you crazy. Both times I had late 1st trimester missed m/c's so I'm not sure if that made the hormone level more severe.

My first D&C my period returned in about 5 weeks. My last one, took forever a little past 8 weeks.

Good luck to you. ((Hugs))

floridakat · October 2009

I'm so very sorry you're having to go through this.

cheekyali · October 2009

I am sorry you are going through this.

I had a D&C at 7 weeks. The procedure itself was easy- they put you under and before you know it you are awake. I had some bad cramping when I woke up, but they gave me something through the IV and I was fne 30 mins later. Rested the rest of the day. had a tiny bit of spotting and was groggy but that was it.

Beta took a month to come down, and AF arrived after another month- so we were able to do an IUI 2 months after D&C.

princess_shelly · October 2009

the D&C is a piece of cake. It is done out patient. Depending on your Dr. you will either be under general, like I was, or get an epidural (I have seen this many times in the hospital where I work). I went home a few hours later. Due to my uterus not contracting I had to be on medication when I went home to continue to help it contract and prevent extra blood loss.

Like the PP said it is the emotional part that is hard. I had a late 1st trimester loss (13 weeks). I won't lie, it really f'ed my head up.

That being said 7 months later we conceived our DS.

mscandyman · October 2009

Oh Joyful, I'm so sorry you have to go through this. I don't have any insight into D&Cs but I want to let you know you and your DH are in my thoughts.

momagain2009 · October 2009

Joy, I'm sooo sooo sorry. I didn't have a D&C, I mc naturally but wanted to let you know I'll be thinking of you.

FrannyS · October 2009

Joy, I am so sorry again that this didn't work out but the positives you mention are encouraging!

GL with the D&C (I have no experience with this) tomorrow.

AmyeJean · October 2009

Hugs I am sorry that you are going thru this.

Senind you lots of prayers for an easy day tomorrow.

leslieb923 · October 2009

Sorry to hear you have to go thru this. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

MrsKario · October 2009

Honey - Im so very sorry.

I will be praying for you.

sadie sadie · October 2009

I'm so sorry that this is happening to you. Sending healing energy your way.

BrideforKen · October 2009

You are in my thoughts and prayers.

ccbanana · October 2009

I like your 3 positives. I'm so sorry joyful. I hope this time flies for you.

GymDogFran · October 2009

Joyful, I am so very sorry. You will be in my thoughts and prayers tomorrow.

L2theC42 · October 2009

It is great you've found some positives in a hard situation. It's all we have! Know you are being thought of & prayed for!

CharBart · October 2009

I'm so sorry that you are going through all of this. Know that you will be in my thoughts and prayers tomorrow.

suzshack · October 2009

Thinking of you, Joyful, and you'll be in my thoughts tomorrow. ?

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MAH123 · October 2009

Joy - I am so sorry, T&Ps!!!

smilee · October 2009

I am glad you have a plan, but I am so sorry that you have to go through this. Hugs.

I've had a D&C, and in all honesty, it is not that bad. I was mildly crampy afterwards, but really back to normal by the next day.

If you have any questions, please let me know if I can help.

HUGS.

LOVEDBYD · October 2009

I am sorry you are going through this (((hugs)))

Strunella · October 2009

Good luck tomorrow, Joyful! Like the other girls, my D&C was relatively easy. In fact, I even said to the nurse, "It's over already?" I didn't really experience a lot of pain...I took some Motrin for mild cramps but that was about it. Went home and slept most of the day. Thinking of you and again, I'm so sorry you have to go through this.

MrsPLW71 · October 2009

You are in my thoughts and prayers. I'm so sorry

NowDNAtoo · October 2009

I am sooo sorry you are having to go through this. As all the pp stated the physical aspect is easy the mental is the tough part. Everything with the d&c went fine for me. It was when I came too that I completely lost it and burst into tears and couldn't stop crying for the longest time. I went home and cried more until I thought I had nothing left, but it often came back and hit me at random times. I wish you the best tomorrow, you'll be in my t&p, and remember to take the time you need to grieve.

taratru · October 2009

Joyful, I will keep you in my thoughts. I'm so very sorry.

My d&c was really not that bad. I didn't bleed until about three days later and that lasted about a week. There wasn't much pain at all - I had it on a Friday evening, so I had the weekend to recover, but I was physically fine by Sunday.