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Babies: 9 - 12 Months
1st time away from DC overnight
When did you / will you first spend a night away from DC? What about 2 nights? What about DH/SO?
The reason I ask is that DH and I have 2 weddings before our baby will be 3 months. The bach parties for the 1st couple will likely be before the baby is 6 or 8 weeks old. I said that I don't think I'll be able to go because I plan to EBF (including pumping if that counts as EBF) and it probably wouldn't be established enough to give him a bottle yet, but DH says he sees no problem with me being away for a night and him being away for a whole weekend.
I don't want to worry about anything unnecessarily but it kind of bothers me that he's so nonchalant about it, and I told him so while we were discussing. Am I overreacting? Hopefully so lol This is my first so I have zero experience here. Thanks!
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Re: 1st time away from DC overnight
My little guy is nearly 7 months and I haven't been away from him overnight yet. I also EBF. At that young, the baby will be waking up several times a night to eat, so it would probably be a PITA for you to not be there.
As for your DH being gone a whole weekend, I guess that depends on how you feel about it. He might also change his mind once the baby is actually here.
DH left for a weekend when DD was 4 weeks old. It wasn't that bad. My mom came over during the day on Saturday to keep me company. He came home early Sunday morning.
I left DD with DH overnight for one night when she was 3 months old. It was harder on me than on her. She slept better for DH than she had been sleeping for me- figures!
Do what you are comfortable with. But I would guess your nursing and supply should be established enough to be able to pump while you are gone.
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Our first time away was when DS was 7-months old. We celebrated our anniversary and were away for 21 hours! I left frozen milk for my mother and pumped when DS would have eaten had I been there.
I could not do what you are describing at 6-8 weeks. Even though DS was taking a bottle, he was eating at least every 2 hours during the day and every 3 over-night. Even if I could find someone willing to get up and feed him (meaning only sleeping in 2 hour chunks) I would still have to be able to pump at least every 3 hours (if not more) to keep up supply and feel comfortable. Will you be able to pump out at a bach. party? Where will your store the milk you pump? Will you have enough expressed milk to leave for your LO? Just my thoughts! I'm sure it can be done, but events like that weren't even on my radar until closer to 5-6 months.
Hmmm. I honestly can't remember- maybe 12 weeks? I stopped breastfeeding at 10 weeks so I definitely wasn't doing that, and she was only waking once to eat at that point. Me and DH just went to a party 2 hours away and stayed overnight and were home in the AM.
I think you have to play it by ear but you might be fine going away for one night. Honestly- you may not be so into a bachelorette party but if your DH goes for a night, you will prob be ok. There is something really nice about getting dressed and being with adults for a night.
It really depends on how you are with bfing too. I never really worried about supply and all that- i guess i was lucky and gave her bottles and formula from day 1.
This Saturday MIGHT be my first night away from DD and she's 8 months, 1 week old. And I'm a nervous wreck about it. It's after a wedding too. It's close to home, but we were going to stay in the hotel where the reception is. Then it snowballed into my parents keeping DD overnight. We'll see how it goes, I guess...
I don't think you're overreacting at all. At 6 or 8 weeks old, I NEVER would have left DD overnight. And it would definitely be a pita if you're EBF.
DH has been away from us for a weekend a couple times. We do okay (I've had help both times) but DH misses DD like crazy.