Comfortable with using LO's name??

Amanda_&_Eric · October 2009

If you have already settled on a name for your LO, do you call them by that name??

I like the name we have picked out, but for some reason I'm uncomfortable calling her by name right now. It just feels kind of awkward and werid. For now, when DH and I are talking about LO I just call her 'she' and usually follow that with a point to my belly.

Is it normal to feel this way? I feel like I'm already a bad mom just because I'm not 'bonding' with my unborn baby...I dunno, I'm probably just BSC.

rcollier_17 · October 2009

We call our little guy by name all the time. So much so that I've slipped up a couple times and spilled on his name. Oops! We never really had a "nickname" to call him though. Ya know how some people call their LO peanut or something, we never had that, so Dominic got put in there very quickly.

kristie2422 · October 2009

We haven't decided 100% on a name, but are pretty sure. However, we don't call him that. Our nickname for him is "Tank" so we call him that as does everyone else. Also when others ask about names we lie and say we haven't thought of about it yet. I guess we just don't want to deal with others' opinions.

mrsmyers8 · October 2009

we picked out names before our big us. i have always called him my lil bugger. well the last two months i have been using his name. dh was said he is not gonna know his name when he comes out cause i keep calling him a lil bugger... so we call him by his name, hunter... it feels normal to me and i love the name i picked out..

lilmissmuffin12 · October 2009

i totally understand how you feel. we have our name as well and i love it and i dont feel that weird when other people say it...but i still feel strange saying it. i wonder if itll be different when she's actually here. but ive definitely thought about it and wonder if its normal too.

misscinn · October 2009

don't be too hard on yourself, i think it's ok that you're not calling her by her name just yet. we do have a name picked out for our LO buy we don't feel comfortable sharing it w/ anyone right now. you're bonding in other ways

Liss_37 · October 2009

We are team green so we aren't using either of our names, but to be honest even if I knew the sex i don't think I'd be comfortable calling my LO any name until he/she is born either. what if i change my mind once i see my LO? what if after a month or so of using it while pregnant I decide I hate the name that I originally chose? we've just nicknamed our baby sweet pea and that's what we've called it for the past 34 weeks

Abinormal · October 2009

I use her name all the time, but DH hardly ever says her name. He has several nicknames for her and refers to her as the baby or it most of the time. I think that he feels weird using her name before she is born. I'm using her name more to help me feel bonded, but I know it'll be more natural when she is actually here.

brainwashxx · October 2009

It's kinda awkward for me. I'm getting a lot use to using her name though. But I don't always. But I also feel bad just calling her 'the baby' or something like that.

I have a REALLY hard time talking to her in my belly though. That is weird for me

LovingLife! · October 2009

The second we found out she was a girl, we've referred to her as Ada!

DH comes home from work and immediately goes to my belly to announce, "Ada! Daddy's home!"

mommys.gummy.bear · October 2009

we never really had a nickname either, besides "the baby".. so we've called him by name since we found out the sex.

sgrl · October 2009

I feel ok calling her by her name around my husband, but with other people I always feel a little crazy, like I'm talking about my imaginary friend or something!

goldenleaves · October 2009

We never call LO by his name. Partly because we're keeping it a secret until he's born IRL. Partly because it feels weird to me to call him Ryan right now.

mcbray21 · October 2009

I call LO by her name most of the time. I do sometimes refer to her as the baby or she though. I don't think it is weird that you don't call yours by name yet. That doesn't mean you aren't bonding!

Jocelyn0415 · October 2009

We call Evie by her name. We say things like, "Can you put this in Evie's room?" or "When Evie gets here..." I love calling her by her name! It makes it feel like she's a part of our family.

barefootbride2008 · October 2009

We only call her by name when we're at home alone. We're not sharing her name with anyone. In front of others, we refer to her as The Lobster, which has been her nickname from the beginning.

misschippers · October 2009

We've been calling LO by her name as soon as we found out gender. My parents will even ask, "How's _____ doing?" It would be weird for us to call her anything else at this point.

Amanda_&_Eric · October 2009

brainwashxx:
It's kinda awkward for me. I'm getting a lot use to using her name though. But I don't always. But I also feel bad just calling her 'the baby' or something like that.
I have a REALLY hard time talking to her in my belly though. That is weird for me

Thank you! Me TOO. The only time I 'talk' to her is to tell her to quit kicking me so hard, and that is more of a warning. If she doesn't stop I start poking back LOL Stick out tongue

Delby · October 2009

I totally get what you're saying. I have felt like this the entire time we have had a name picked out. I love the name and have for a long time before I was even pg, but it's just weird saying it at this point. I also get a little weirded out when people, other than DH, refer to her by her name and point to my belly and all that. MIL (and others) always refers to LO by her name talking to friends, us, whoever, and I think it just sounds weird. I have just attributed this mostly to my fear that all 6 of our ultrasounds where they said girl have been wrong, but I'm not sure if that's why... I have started feeling really bad about it lately too. I guess I'll find out in a few days if it's still weird to say her name!!

katieL09 · October 2009

Our baby girls name is Lillian as well, we will call her lilly for short. We always call ber by name, it seems so normal!

fIowerchild · October 2009

We didn't use my son's name until he was born.

Amanda_&_Eric · October 2009

LovingLife!:
The second we found out she was a girl, we've referred to her as Ada!
DH comes home from work and immediately goes to my belly to announce, "Ada! Daddy's home!"

I'm sorry, but that is toooo cute! If my DH did that I would die of laughter but I think its really special that you and your DH can do it seriously.

DH has never really talked to the baby either...one time he tried and it was just awkward lol

wallycat · October 2009

We are using her name, Mikayla between us, but not telling others. We got some negative feedback from family so we just quit telling her name. We should not have been surprised by the negative feedback as the same family members (MIL/ other of DH family members) still make comments about how they wanted a boy not a girl!

KatiKM · October 2009

I am more comfortable using her name that calling her she...I am not sure why but only recently have I been able to call her "she" rather than, "baby" or "the baby"

Amanda_&_Eric · October 2009

Waiting On Baby:
Our baby girls name is Lillian as well, we will call her lilly for short. We always call ber by name, it seems so normal!

I love the name! It was my favorite grandmother's name, and I liked the idea of a more classic name like Lillian paired with a more modern contemporary name such as Paisley. All of DH's family already calls her Lilly, which doesn't weird me out, but I think DH and I will probably call her Lilly P. I just like the way it sounds Geeked

kreeper611 · October 2009

Not really. I still call him "the kid."

getnmarried910 · October 2009

We don't know what this one is, so it doesn't apply, but we never really called our other two by name. The only reason we didn't is because we didn't want to slip up and say it around anyone else because we were keeping the name a secret. We refer to my sister's unborn baby by name all the time. Well most of us do. We call him Easton. DH calls him "bat boy."

ChristmasBride06 · October 2009

We use his name all the time-- mostly because I just got to thinking of him as Aidan (umm, funny enough, I got thinking of him as Aidan a couple weeks before the U/S because I was SO sure he was a boy). And we told our families the name...we have always said if we decided to change it we would but I like using it.

Michele57O · October 2009

We have a first name picked out and we use it all the time. Sometimes I still call him baby and that is starting to feel weird. We are still having issues picking out a middle name. I don't think it is weird to feel that way though.

mrs_sherod · October 2009

We call Mason by name all of the time. You may need to see your baby before you're comfortable calling her by name.

lilbrunette222 · October 2009

We have used her name since we found out what we were having...lately I have been worried that she will actually come out a boy and think his name is Ashlynn...I think I had a dream about it.

colliedog · October 2009

We decided not to find out the sex of our LO so we have always called the bump Tigger, (just a quicky story to why we picked the name....we were both born within 20 miles of the 100 acre wood in the UK, and when LO started to move about s/he always seemed to be jumping not just kicking) everyone now refers to the bump as Tigger or Tigs...i have to admit i am a little worried that no-one will use the proper name and s/he will be a Tigger forever!!

mash1982 · October 2009

Amanda_&_Eric:
If you have already settled on a name for your LO, do you call them by that name??
I like the name we have picked out, but for some reason I'm uncomfortable calling her by name right now. It just feels kind of awkward and werid. For now, when DH and I are talking about LO I just call her 'she' and usually follow that with a point to my belly.
Is it normal to feel this way? I feel like I'm already a bad mom just because I'm not 'bonding' with my unborn baby...I dunno, I'm probably just BSC.

I'm the same way, and DH is very superstitious so he doesn't call her by her name either

chef'swife · October 2009

I almost always refer to her as Aven...my husband loves her name, but doesn't use it when referring to her most of the time. He says she 'isn't real, yet' so he isn't ready to call her by name.

LovingLife! · October 2009

Amanda_&_Eric:
LovingLife!:
The second we found out she was a girl, we've referred to her as Ada!
DH comes home from work and immediately goes to my belly to announce, "Ada! Daddy's home!"
I'm sorry, but that is toooo cute! If my DH did that I would die of laughter but I think its really special that you and your DH can do it seriously.
DH has never really talked to the baby either...one time he tried and it was just awkward lol

I always laugh when he does!

She totally recognizes his voice though and bounces around when he talks to her, so it makes me happy

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