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Help with Ferber Method

LilAir36LilAir36 member
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DD has been having major sleep issues lately - both an night and naps. I know what to do, its just so difficult - especially nap time. How do you handle naps - is there a time limit you stop at? We tried Ferber before for naps, but never followed through because it was too difficult during the day. Listening to her cry makes me so anxious. Any tips? I'll even listen if you've done something other than Ferber. We did the Baby whisperer when she was younger. Thanks for any advice. I know Ferber is hard in general, but it just doesn't seem to be working for naps at all.

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Re: Help with Ferber Method

  • sarahkellysarahkelly

    I can comiserate with you. Sadie still isn't STTN at 14 months and we just cannot bring ourselves to Ferberize her. We just can't do it. She is only waking up once for a bottle which is WAY better than what it was up until she was 10 months old (she was up 4-5 times a night at least, not joking) and we're just dealing with it and hope it works itself out.

    Sorry I know that wasn't helpful but I wanted to say "I know where you're coming from". I hope you can find something that works!

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  • tina623tina623 member
    We did a mix of ferber and pick up put down.  We needed to do it.  They needed sleep.  At first we stunk at it.  Kept going in and getting them up but it helps it you go where you can't hear the crying.  I sat in here know they were crying but I couldn't hear it and then I'd go in.  The times I sat outside the door were what was causing up to fail.  GL..it is very very hard but looking back, I'm glad I did it. 
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  • LisaMarisaLisaMarisa
    I've found that each baby needs something a little different.  DS gets stimulated easily so picking him up just upset him more.  If he cries and doesnt calm himself down we will go in his room and sit in the glider until he falls asleep.  That way he knows we are there but he is going to sleep on his own.  It took a little while for him to get used to this but it works great now.  I think the most important part is to be consistent with whatever you decide.
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  • 5Foot5Foot

    We did everything all at once--both night time and nap time.  She caught on to night time faster than nap times and we did Ferber.  It was definitely difficult but she's getting the hang of it.  It's been 2 weeks now and she just took a 2 hour nap--waking up after 40 minutes and putting herself back to sleep!  The beginning was incredibly difficult, especially for naps.  I know that it's not easy to listen to them cry but being consistent is the key.  If it's really difficult for you then set your time limits low so that you can go in and check more.  If you're not comfortable with 5, 10, 15 minutes then start with 2, 4, 6 minutes.  Just be consistent and don't pick her up.  I know it's hard but you can do it and in the long run you will both be much happier.  Hang in there!

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