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Those with Unexplained IF, please come in

Mrs.NYCMrs.NYC
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so, we just did our 4th clomid IUI and it was a BFN.  I had so much hope that this was it and of course it was a let down. I am not going to be moving onto injectables, DH thinks we should just take a break and try on our own but I just am so hopeless that it will ever happen.

Did you get pregnant during a break? How did you cope bc I can't handle it anymore, I am just sad and angry all at the same time and I just feel hopeless. I know people struggle alot longer than i have but I just don't know what to do with myself.

Thanks for letting me vent. 

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Re: Those with Unexplained IF, please come in

  • schoolsoutbrideschoolsoutbride
    I got PG on a break my first cycle after IVF, but it didn't stick.  I don't know what to think about what it means for the possibility of it happening again.  My latest entry in my blog kind of had to do with this.
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    I did get pregnant during a break between our last IUI cycle and our first IVF cycle (I had cysts so couldn't take any meds).  It was so random and unexpected after trying for over 12 months with no luck!  Unfortunately, it ended at 7 weeks in a miscarriage.  It turns out there was a chromosomal issue (trisomy 16) so it wouldn't have been a viable pregnancy. 

    With my IVFs we're doing genetic screening on the embryos - based on my miscarriage and also my 'good' embies rate (very low...usually 25% of fertilized embies are 'good'), I think this is probably one of our biggest obstacles to my getting pregnant.  I'm in the 2ww of my 2nd IVF now.

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  • harley12harley12
    I'm so sorry...unexplained totally sucks and is so frustrating.  We did take a break and got pregnant in between IUI and IVF, but it didn't stick. We have done 3 IVF's with no luck and at times of course I feel hopeless, but I just hang on to the thought that we will be parents. Somehow, someway...not sure what that way is yet, but we will make it happen, The only way it won't is if we give up. I wish you the best of luck...and try and hang in there. I know how hard it may seem at times. Hugs.
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  • CarrieLizCarrieLiz member

    I'm sorry :(.  Why won't you move on to injectables?  Are you considering having any further testing done?

    DH and I did one round of Clomid before seeing the RE.  Once we had our first appt with the RE he told us that in his opinion Clomid was great for inducing ovulation, but doesn't necessarily improve egg quality so for someone like me who ovulates it might not be the best choice.  When you factor in the side effects and the damage it could do to your lining and CM, we decided not to do any more Clomid cycles.  He suggested a couple cycles of injectables + IUI, and if those didn't work then to move forward with other testing.  We'll hopefully be starting the first cycle next week and if it results in a BFN then I want to do further testing. 

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  • Mrs.Gale920Mrs.Gale920
    I am with you on this. We have had our first iui last month and got a BFN. I talked to my dr about going to a RE soon. She is going to try 3 more iui's before hand. Although we took a break from clomid and iui this cycle and trying to let it happen on its own. Good luck.
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  • waitwhatwaitwhat
    I don't have anything to add except I'm really sorry, and I know how frustrating unexplained IF can be. 
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  • Dragonfly1226Dragonfly1226 member

    I'm so sorry. BFNs are so hard. I totally know how you feel. We are waiting for insurance to go through so we can start our first IVF cycle. DH is psyched to try on our own this cycle, but to me it just seems hopeless. 

    I think it's so hard to be unexplained b/c nobody can tell you what the heck is wrong. To me, it has been especially hard for dh to accept.

    I wish I had better advice for you. I can say that taking this break while waiting to start IVF has been amazing for me. It had really given me a chance to step away from IF and focus on me and living life. Maybe a break will do the same for you.

    (((((hugehugs))))) 

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  • TNTB9405TNTB9405
    We were unexplained until I had my lap and found out that stage II endo was the culprit.  We conceived DD a week after my lap.  We tried for 18 months, 6 of those with the RE.  It was frustrating when everything looked perfect and I was getting BFNs.  I understand what you are going through and it really does suck.  Maybe you could ask your RE about doing a lap to see if endo is the culprit?  A friend of mine did a lap after I had mine and was successful and then their 2nd IVF worked (1st was before the lap).  Hope you are successful soon!
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  • bride526bride526
    I didn't get pregnant during a break cycle, but wanted to say I did four cycle of clomid and all of those cycles failed. I got a BFP on an injectable/IUI cycle. so you never know. It's very frustrating being unexplained. Good luck to you!
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