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"So is your baby natural?"

mrsolsenk12mrsolsenk12
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I have people ask me this question from time to time. Now if you look at my siggy, you will see that I am an infertile who had to go to exteme measures to get pregnant, so this question bothers me. Would you ask someone this question if you knew that they had trouble getting pregnant? My DS is an In vetro Fertilization baby but I don't consider that "unnatural". Maybe I am overly sensitive since I went through IF. Would you mean that offensivly or just curiosity?

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  • rebus82rebus82

    I would find it to be an extremely odd question no matter what the situation. I mean, unless you have an animatronic child, s/he is obviously "natural."?

    If the person knew your had IF problems, then I think it's an extremely tactless question, though people are incredibly stupid so I doubt anyone has ever asked with any idea how rude it is.?

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  • brandistrionfo@gmail.combrandistrionfo@gmail.com
    umm, your baby is human, correct?  That's about as "natural" as they come.  People are ridiculous.
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  • trinisetrinise member
    i would be offended no your not being sensitive. All babies are natural  I don't care how you got pregnant. People are so weird!!
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  • Sweeters04Sweeters04

    I didn't go through this, but my best friend is going through it right now. I think it would matter on the tone they ask.

    Honestly, a baby is a blessing. It doesn't matter how you got him, adopted, in vetro, unplanned, planned; people need to understand that he's yours no matter where he came from.

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  • schmoodleschmoodle member
    If I intellectualize it, then yes, the term "natural" has some unflattering implications about our babies, but if someone asked me that I'd just ssay that he was conceived via in vitro. Depending who it was I might comment that he;s still "natural", just conceived differently. It's not like they're adding chemicals and preservatives to the embryos before transferring them back in!
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  • grinsandgigglesgrinsandgiggles member

    I think they just didn't choose their words wisely.  While it's really none of their business, they should have just asked if you had fertility treatment, not if the baby was "natural." (Edit:  Assuming they have known you in the past, not a stranger.)

    I wouldn't worry though, some people (like me) are interested in that stuff (I never thought I would ever get pregnant on my own).  Or maybe they know someone who is also having a hard time.  Sometimes it's nice to know there are successes.  I would never ask someone that though.

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  • N&G 5_26_07N&G 5_26_07 member
    I don't think thats anyone's business. I would be very annoyed with that question. I would respond, "What kind of question is that?" and put the rude person on the spot.
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  • jacksjerseygirljacksjerseygirl member

    People are just ignorant. As you can see from my siggy - we get a whole different set of ignorant questions lol 

    I'm sure they don't mean it to be malicious. You could come up with some snarky or funny quips ...

    .... natural? .... what do you mean? - this makes them have to confront their ignorance.

    .... oh yes, he is natural ... naturally smart, naturally handsome ... -

    .... that's kind of a rude question, don't you think? - again put this back at them and makes them confront their ignorance. 

    .... what position where you and your husband in when you conceived your LO? - When they give you the jaw drop look - you can say ... oh that was too personal and none of my business huh?

    Your LO is ADORABLE! 

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  • mel72mel72

    imageschmoodle:
    If I intellectualize it, then yes, the term "natural" has some unflattering implications about our babies, but if someone asked me that I'd just ssay that he was conceived via in vitro. Depending who it was I might comment that he;s still "natural", just conceived differently. It's not like they're adding chemicals and preservatives to the embryos before transferring them back in!

    This!

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  • MrsWaneeMrsWanee
    that's a very weird question for sure. i would be offended!
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  • EmH12EmH12

    imagebran_flake09:
    umm, your baby is human, correct?  That's about as "natural" as they come.  People are ridiculous.

    This! 

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