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Would you be upset?

msngrl2008msngrl2008
in Babies: 0 - 3 Months

Hi there,

I'll try & make this short. FIL helps us with daycare. (Which I am appreciative of & we pay him).  DS has formula while he is with FIL. I sent the formula pre-measure in a powder formula dispenser & sent extra formula with a scoop just in case.

FIL just saw the extra formula & didn't look for the scoop or the pre-measured container. He then just estimates how much powder to put in the bottles.

I get DS last night & he tells me what he did. I calmly explain that I had everything in the bag & that next time look for those items. It's just that if I have never had the dispenser & scoop in the bag before that is one thing. But I always do!! Why would he think I would just forget?  Husband thinks it's no big deal.

I guess this is more just a vent. Baby is fine.  I guess it's just hard for me to not be in total control. It's my second week back to work & this is killing me!!

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  • Soap1Soap1 member

    I think it's normal to be anxious about losing some control, but I also thing your DH is right - no big deal.

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  • gumiberggumiberg member

    so he just eyeballs the formula?
    of course that would upset me.

    even if there wasnt a scoop, one could  google to find out the size of the scoop (like 1 or 1.5 tablespoons) and then just use the approriate measuring spoon.

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  • madonnadouwannamadonnadouwanna
    If it happened once, I would try to look past it.  Now that you have had the conversation and it continues to happen, I would be upset.  Learning to let go about some things is tough that is for sure!
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  • ShleiShlei
    LO is on BM only and has times where she eats more than other times. I don't stress out about it too much. If she were on formula I don't think I would worry too much about it happening one time however, I would ask him to please always use the scoop.
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  • MrsDBMrsDB
    i wouldn't stress too much. it wasn't long ago that babies ate condensed milk with sugar. that's probably what your FIL was raised on. Now obviously you don't want your kid eating that, but my point is that older generations just don't KNOW to be concerned about things like this.  you've explained it to him and if he repeats it- then get upset. But i'm positive it just never occured to him that it could be a big deal.
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  • cedenscedens member

    i dont know if its a huge deal- but if my MIL did it, i think i would have an issue with it (only bc i dont like her very much lol)

    i just dont get why he didnt just look on the back of the can to see how much to put in the bottle?

    and if u r worried about it happening again, then just get a few of the dispensers and just put that in the bag- instead of giving him the can to do whatever he wants with then... or premake the bottles (pita i know) but if he continues to do this after talking to him then those would be good options...

     what did he say when u told him that u had the dispenser in there for a reason? did he sound ilke he was going to use it or was it more like, i dont need that?

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