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Up constantly last night AGAIN :::::HELP::::::

CrazycrustaceanCrazycrustacean
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She was up constantly again last night. And now I fear that I'm reinforcing her bad habit of nursing in the middle of the night. 

I know she's looking for comfort and that's why I give it to her. She's teething & so uncomfy. Tylenol/motrin don't even seem to be making a dent in her teething pain. So I figure if I can't help her relax I will right? 

Except that it took us soooooooooooooooo long to help her be able to be rocked to sleep during night wakings without nursing. So she's able to be soothed still, but instead of taking 5 or 10 minutes for dh to put her back to sleep, it's taking 40. Whereas if she gets a boob, it's 5 minutes. 

I know I shouldn't "train" during teething bouts, but how do you know where to draw the line. I'm not good at listening for different pitches in crying at 3am. I'm lucky if I can tell the difference during the day. They all sound the same to me still. She's a whiny mess. I'm a whiny mess. We're all exhausted. 

And FWIW, before someone suggests it, CIO/Ferber aren't options in our house because we're (dh) not all on board with it.  

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Re: Up constantly last night AGAIN :::::HELP::::::

  • pentagrlpentagrl
    I'm no help with the training but for the teething, have you tried baby orajel? There's also a night version but I'm unsure of the difference in ingredients..... just a thought! I know some topicals work well when oral meds don't. I'm also fairly certain you can use them in conjunction with oral pain relievers. Ask your Pedi or your RPH, they're usually more helpful than they seem Wink
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  • CrazycrustaceanCrazycrustacean
    Yeah she has prescription lidocaine, but it doesn't help either. 
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  • pinkwedding05pinkwedding05

    I havre no advice since I seem to be in the exact same boat.  Last night was night 3 of her waking up constantly to nurse.  She normally just wakes up and roots a bit when she's hungry, but for the last 3 nights she wakes up crying every 20-30 mins.  She sleeps with us.  I don't know if we should transition her back to the crib or what.  I finally gave her motrin last night and it didn't do anything.  I can't tell if she's teething or not. 

    I am always so full of doubt at night.  During the day I am pretty confident in my parenting, but at night I feel like I don't know what she needs.  I know if I give her the boob that it will work and so that's what I do. 

    Not trying to highjack your post, but I do understand. 

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  • pentagrlpentagrl

    imageCrazycrustacean:
    Yeah she has prescription lidocaine, but it doesn't help either. 

    Hmmmm.... What strength is the lidocaine? OOC. Have you thought about asking a pediatric dentist? And I also thought..... does she take a pacifier? I know DS would be on the boob several more hours a day if it weren't for the pacifier. At night when he's really upset and wants the boob I hold him like I'm nursing him but put the paci in his mouth instead. That might be a good way to stick with your sleep training too.

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  • confused25confused25
    I just wanted to say that I'm sorry you are having such a rough time with sleeping! I'm thinking good sleeping thoughts for you and M!!!!
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  • ammcammc member
    I hate to even recommend this but... what about a pacifier for at night?  Devan usually takes it to fall asleep and then she spits it out and sleeps thru the night.  This is the only time she takes it unless she is upset and needs it to calm herself down.  I'm thinking maybe the sucking motion might ease her and replace the boob.
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  • CrazycrustaceanCrazycrustacean
    I wish she'd take a paci. This kid wants no nipple except the mommy nipple. I tried & tried & tried to no avail. I'm just destined to be one exhausted momma. 
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  • AngelLuver_02AngelLuver_02 member

    imageammc:
    I hate to even recommend this but... what about a pacifier for at night?  Devan usually takes it to fall asleep and then she spits it out and sleeps thru the night.  This is the only time she takes it unless she is upset and needs it to calm herself down.  I'm thinking maybe the sucking motion might ease her and replace the boob.

    this. was going to be my suggesstion. sorry

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  • CiconradCiconrad member
    Unfortunately I think you are going to have to do the longer rocking sessions.  Yes, it takes longer than giving her the boob - but in the long run you are going to spend way more time up at night with the boob than a few long nights without it.  It'll take longer and be more painful (for you) for a few nights but eventually she has got to give up the boob. 
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  • Mandy06Mandy06

    When DD was cutting molars, she was up every hour on the hour, screaming. I would go in and soothe her and she would go right back to sleep.

    The things seem to work/ed for us, we give her a lovey and a sippie of water. I know that is a big no no to some women, but it works of us. Now if she wakes up during the night, she'll lay in bed and talk for a bit, then I can hear her drinking.

    I hope M starts to get better sleep habits soon!

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  • nancyandnatenancyandnate

    I don't have any advice, but wanted to say "me too!"  He was up every hour and just wanted to be held.  What I wouldn't give for an emotion besides upset from this guy...

    I hope you both get some rest today and have a better night ahead. 

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  • jenn_darrin1515jenn_darrin1515 member

    I know you said she won't take a paci but have you tried these?  My girls will only take these that the hospital gave us and they are made especially for breastfeeding babies...any other paci they spit right out and won't take...if you haven't tried them it may be worth a shot!  Sorry I don't have any other advice...good luck!

     https://www.gumdroppacifier.com/

     

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