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Had a crappy night... FI vent

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So we got into a fight, and he yelled at me, and yelled and yelled and yelled. He really said some hurtful stuff. When things finally cooled down, I was crying in the bathroom and he came in there to tell me that he was really sorry. He said he was sorry for saying all the evil things he said. I got up to just walk away, and he tried to hug me. I just stood there for a minute because I couldn't  get out of the bathroom. then I walked out, and he said that he wanted to talk to me. I finally just said I didn't want to talk and got LO and laid down on the couch with him. FI had to go to work after about an hour and a hallf and came and kissed LO on the head. he started out the door, and said bye to me. He just left. I now feel miserable. Apparently I don't make any money to really contribute to anything (I make less than min. wage), he does everything, he wants to just feed formula because he thinks it is too much stress on me (my supply is starting to go down), I don't "allow him to go out with his friends", and he doesn't have a social life because of me. He doesn't get to do anything that he used to be able to do. All he gets is to be able to sleep in. He does all the work and if anything happens to him I couldn't do anything to support us. This isn't all of it... but I'm not even bringing up the rest. I feel shitty and insufficient. I wish I had a great job like I used to, but I don't. I figured anything I could do to make money would be helpful. I guess not.
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  • jen1177jen1177 member
    Sorry to hear about your terrible night. I hope you two can work things out and talk when he gets home!
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  • Jimsgirl5821Jimsgirl5821
    Oh please...it has nothing to do with you. You have a new baby....no one with a new baby has a social life. He needs to just get over it. Maybe he is having a hard time adjusting but needs to find a better way to handle it.
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  • Mrs_mamMrs_mam
    No, he decided to have a child with you and that is what has "ruined" his social life. He needs to get over himself, I'd LOVE to sleep in. Anyway, the way to go about this is not to punch him in the face when he gets home, but to discuss calmly how you can make both of your lives easier. He can start by not yelling!
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  • kimthgrtkimthgrt

    imageJimsgirl5821:
    Oh please...it has nothing to do with you. You have a new baby....no one with a new baby has a social life. He needs to just get over it. Maybe he is having a hard time adjusting but needs to find a better way to handle it.

     

    this!! Dont feel guilty at all. When he gets home I would make that clear to him. If he goes out al the time he will miss LO doing all the major baby milestones as well. And you need a break!!

    I hope everything works out for you!! **hugs** 

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  • BestsugarBestsugar member
    I've had a few days like this myself. It feels awful and the last thing I wanted to do was to talk to dh, but it's the only way to get things starting in the right direction. I hope it gets better soon for you!
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