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NBR: When did my family turn into white trash? Vent...
So a little background... My brother is an alchoholic. My mother has tried and tried to help him out and CONTINUES TO DO SO and its driving me nuts. He's been married 3 times... 2 kids from 1 wife 2 from the next and then 1 baby mama while he was married the 3. My mother bought him a HOUSE so he would have somewhere to live.. He was supposed to pay rent but hasn't for 2 years. Enable much?
Anyway, she just went to stay with him for a week. Turns out 1 he is drinking again and 2, one of is sleezeball roomates (or himself) took $200 out of her wallet but she is totally in denial about it. Now she is on her way across the country to see Ex 1 who recently moved her and her kids across the state to live with her boyfriend of... TWO AND A HALF WEEKS. I hate when women do that its so bad for the children.
This is absolutely fvcking ridiculous. I'm to the point where I don't even want my daughter involved in his drama with his 8923 kids and 9823 baby mamas. And I feel so horrible for my mom who feels like she failed him and keeps enabling him. (Oh yeah, he's 35.)
Vent over. Ugh.
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Re: NBR: When did my family turn into white trash? Vent...
That sucks...yeah, she's enabling him. Not defending her, because at some point you have to reach your breaking point, but it's got to be hard as a parent to let your child fall on their face. She probably feels guilty and responsible too.
Can you talk to her about al-anon? I think that's what it's called for family members/friends of alcoholics.
And try to just stay as far away as possible! Your poor nieces and nephews
It doesn't sound like his first two kids have any stable parent in their lives.
If it makes you feel better my older bro's soon-to-be-ex-wife (AKA~Alicia) refuses to take her bi-polar meds because when she takes them (and they start working) she the thinks she doesn't need them anymore and "feels fine". So on her last Everything I do is your fault and I don't need my meds binge she tried to get my older bro's attention by a botched attempt at suicide by old vitamins and expired tylenol....last I was told. So while Alicia is off her meds, the baby was at Alicia's SIL's house for the night and in the middle of her feeling sorry for herself she thinks she knows the exact way to get my brother to feel sorry for her so she tries to fight her way into the home and *wait for it* try to cut my niece in half so my brother can "have his half of her." WTF?
My brother was working a homicide scene and didn't know this was going on till the police arrived to cart her goofy a$s off to the mental hospital. My brother now has custody of my niece.
My niece turns 2 in 5 days. She is the chunkiest, sweetest, kindest little thing on two feet. I cannot imagine anyone trying to murder her at a pathetic attempt to get attention. It's just so sad. My family has really stepped up and done whatever any of us can to make sure my niece has all that she needs. I am hoping my brother is awarded full custody at the next hearing so we can put this behind us and move on as a family.
OMG that doesn't make me feel better! I'm so sorry that you're family is dealing with that crazy lady... I hope your brother gets full custody too!
Agreed alchoholism isn't just a white trash problem. Have 5 kids with different women, 6 ex step kids, all in 4 different states, not being able to pay rent because you can't keep a job, and stealing from your mother: white trash problem. Thanks for reading the whole post.
Whatever then.
that is insane, kinda reminds me of the lady who drowned her son so the granparents couldn't have him... and FWIW you and I both know that this shouldnt even be an issue...