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Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss
Ending my time as a lurker... late loss, 36 weeks
I just wanted to introduce myself. I've been lurking since my husand and I lost our son, Daren, on 6/29 at 36 weeks after a completely healty/normal pregnancy to a cord accident (the cord was around his neck twice and became too tight). To make a long story short, I hadn't been feeling my son move, called the doctor, they said that most likely everything was fine but to come to the hospital and they'd check his heartbeat, we got to the hospital, they used the fetal heart monitor then ultrasound, and we heard the words that will haunt me for the rest of my life "there is no heartbeat". I was induced and labored for 24 hours before Daren was born on 6/29 at 8:12pm. He was absolutely beautiful and had a head of dark hair like his daddy. Over the past few months, we've had many ups and downs. Some days, I feel kind of ok and others I feel like I'm just barely hanging on. My doctor said that we could TTC after three months, so that's the stage that we're in now. No baby will ever replace our firstborn son, but we still desire to bring a healthy baby home with us. I'm trying to be hopeful for the future. I hate that there are so many of us that have had losses and I wish that no one ever had to go through this again, but I'm happy that there are people out there that know what I'm going through and can relate to the pain that I feel.
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Re: Ending my time as a lurker... late loss, 36 weeks
Oh my god, that story is so heartbreaking. I am so, so sorry for your loss.
We do have a late loss check in group that posts every Wednesday--You can probably scroll down to see the post from yesterday. Keep us posted on how you're doing.
Avery Corinne - Born 7/9/10 at 37w2d
BFP #2 - 11/4/09
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i am so sorry to hear about this devestating loss. it's heartbreaking to read, and i can't even imagine what you've been going through the past few months.
i love that you said about trying again. you are so right... no baby will ever replace your first son. but i'm so glad you can have hope for the future... because you deserve a beautiful healthy child.
this is such a great board to share your feelings with. the women on this board have gone to hell and back and can relate to what you're going through. i also encourage you to check out the TTC after a Loss board when you're ready... it's a bit of a different dynamic, but those ladies are awesome and very supportive. best to you. *hugs*
i'm so very sorry for the loss of Daren. I too lost my son, Wyatt at 32wks in June. i know nothing that we say or do can make you feel any better but we are here for you whenever you need to vent, cry, complain, talk etc.. it's a nice place to let it all out.
we can TTC after 3mo too and that's where we're at right now. I'm extremely scared b/c they most likely said it was a chromosome abnormality but i'm trying to stay positive and hope that we will have a baby in arms again some day soon.
good luck to you and your family. your in my thoughts and prayers.
if you ever want to chat please feel free to PM me.
I am so, so sorry for your loss. I hope you find some comfort here. ((hugs))
I am so very very sorry for the loss of your son. I too lost my baby, at 41w when I stopped feeling the baby move and went to the hospital and found there was no heartbeat. I was supposed to be induced at 7am that morning and we got out news at 2am, just 5 short hours before.
This is a fantastic board and especially in our case of a full term loss, it made me feel like less of a freak. I was shocked and saddened to see so many of us so close.
I have my good and bad days too. I just went back to work a week ago and today was probably my first really good day. It took me a bit to get used to just being around people b/c I pretty much shut myself up in my house for 2 1/2 months.
Please feel free to PM me if you would like to talk/vent. Just hit contact at the bottom of my post and pick send private message and it will come just to me like an email.
BFP #2 10/29/08 ...stillborn via c/s @41w 7/20/09
missing my baby everyday
BFP #3 1/20/10 My angel's little sister Grace Madison was born September 8th 2010 @37w. We're so blessed! Thank you angel for getting her here safely.
BFP #4 12/30/11. Jackson Christopher 8/22/2012 via repeat c/s @ 37w 3d
I'm so sorry for your loss.. We also lost our firstborn (little girl, Hope) at 37 weeks after a normal pregnancy, like you, in March. No definite reason for death was found..
I really find this board helpful and gather strength from others here. We became pregnant in Aug. after waiting our 3 months.. Unfortunately, it was discovered that I had a blighted ovum.. thus I miscarried.
I will say that the road after a loss like ours is something that changes your life forever; It is tough.. tough.. tough..yet in small steps you will continue get stronger... and in ways it's really made me appreciate life and get perspective on things so much more,,, thank goodness for faith... and family and friends. I hope the best for you and your husband.
Blessings
OMG. I am crying thinking of your pain. I know that doesn't help you. I cant imagine what you are going through. I have a 2 year old son - and I just cant think of this. the pain must be unimaginable.
I seriously wish you every ounce of luck possible for you to heal from this most unfortunate situation. As difficult as it maybe you need to move on from this -- try again - and you will find some peace when you get to hold Daren''s little brother or sister one day soon. good luck.
god bless, and hang in there.