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My patience has run out, mamas help :(
I can't take the night waking anymore. Last night I was up with DD from 1-4. She is not sick . She just wouln't sleep. I am also starting to resent nursing, especially in the middle of the night. I know she's not ready to wean. Somedays she won't nap without nursing. I've just had it. I'm ready for her to sleep throught he night. Help!
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Re: My patience has run out, mamas help :(
11 months
Definitely check out the NCSS - toddler version. It is really helpful.
Is she teething perhaps? Molars?
What are her naps like during the day? Maybe she needs to cut those down a bit so she doesn't have that need to get up and stay up during the night?
I admit - we've had probably the best night sleep help with Ferber's method (although I don't go the full time limits between comforting that he suggests).
Yes, she is teething molars, but they have never bothered her before. I chalk up last night to molars, which is OK. But, that being said, most nights she wakes up at least once even when she is not teething. And only nursing will get her back to sleep. Argh! I will have to check out that book. I read the NCSS baby version last year, and it really helped us transition to crib and getting her to be able to nap on her own (instead of on me) and some other things. Hopefully the toddler version will have some more helpful ideas for me.
I don't know about the nursing, but as far as the sleeping, we got to the end of our rope just before a year. We couldn't get anything we wanted to work to work and we finally went with a kind of modified Ferber. It was rough for a few days, but he rarely wakes up in the middle of the night and goes down pretty easily for naps too.
I also found that giving him a couple plush toys along with his blanket helped--I think maybe he felt a little lonely before. And we have a pretty set routine for bedtime, right down to the way I show him his crib and all his toys before putting him down and saying goodnight.
She usually takes one 2-3 hour nap in the middle of the day. She usually goes to bed around 8, and wakes up around 3. Last night was worse than normal, a lot of times she just wants to nurse.
Seth never once (in almost 15 months) slept through the night when I would still nurse him in the middle of the night. Some nights he would only wake up once, but he NEVER slept through the night when he knew that if he woke up, he would get to nurse.
So I night weaned.
Of course, you have to do what you feel is best, but it was really the right time for us. I was newly pregnant and EXHAUSTED and my nipples hurt on top of that. So I soothed him when he woke up but didn't nurse him. And it took almost 6 weeks before he slept through the night consistently (he still wakes up at night 1-2 nights per week, but only once and he's easily consoled), but it got better and better.
Ditto this. Mady caught on pretty quickly, so we didn't wait 6 weeks to sleep better, but it was a good week or two before she cut down to waking once or twice. She usually can be soothed (i.e. patted) to sleep pretty quickly. The 5:30 waking is the tough one for her. I think it's because she's starting to get hungry for breakfast and so she can't settle as quickly and needs the extra nursing comfort to help. Sometimes I go ahead and nurse her in my bed and sometimes I soothe her only. It helps a lot that she can be reasoned with in the sense that if I tell her "time to go night night" she knows what it means. She may not like it, but she knows.
GL, I hope you find a good solution for yourself. My poor wifey!
Colin didn't sttn until we night weaned - he was waking only for the milk and when he discovered he wasn't getting it he started sleeping 11 - 12 hours straight - heaven for a very pg mama!! He certainly didn't need the milk but that's why he was waking. And it took less than a week (maybe 3-4 days total) for him to stop waking for it.
good luck - i know it's hard!