3 hour gap in between ceremony & reception...

Re: 3 hour gap in between ceremony & reception...

• kash27

  October 2009

  I do not think that is tacky.  Not everyone that came to my reception was at my ceremony.  And I have gone to just receptions before if I could not make the ceremony for whatever reason.  You have a LO and like you said its an hour away.

   

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• anardi

  October 2009

  We had FIVE hours this past Saturday. It was close to home but by the time the reception rolled around I wanted to stay in my jammies and go to bed.

  Is your LO going? If not maybe after the ceremoney you and DH could go to a bar or hang out with other guests somewhere.

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• PD's_Momma

  October 2009

  SBIL did this! We all just went to a resturant and had some apps and drinks before. The kids ran around & played so they were pretty zonked at the reception.
  

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• EastCoastBride member

  October 2009

  I find it tacky when the wedding and reception are close together and people just want to go "for the party".

  But if there is a huge gap, the bride and groom aren't taking their guests comfort into consideration and they have to make this choice w/ the chance that people will skip the ceremony. 

  Yes, the ceremony is the point of the whole day, but I really believe that if it were REALLY important that the guests come to everything, then the bride and groom wouldn't schedule a 3 hour gap. 

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• tarebear9891 member

  October 2009

  Eh. I think that they weren't really thinking of others that were coming from out of town when they scheduled that (unless there was a scheduling issue in which case they probably should have done a different day). I don't know it might be considered tacky but you can still do it if you want to.

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• MamaMyers22

  October 2009

  You'll be surprised by how fast it goes.  By the time you are finshed saying your hellos at the church and get to where you're going there won't be that much time to spare.

  Use that time to feed and change the baby and run her around the reception grounds a bit to expend energy.  There will probably be a cocktail hour too before the start of the reception

  I take it this is a Catholic ceremony? 

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• me&mymonkey

  October 2009

  How big is the wedding and how close are you to the bride/groom?  If it is a big wedding for a friend then I think you can get away with just the reception.  I barely noticed who was at the ceremony part of my wedding. 

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• anardi

  October 2009

  Also, the bride might not even notice if you are not at the church. I guess it depends how important the people getting married are to you.

  If it was me and it was not family I would just go to the reception.

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• naturelle25 member

  October 2009

  Lilly isn't going with us. She is staying at my mom's for the night, so we don't have to worry about that. The groom was in our wedding, but him and DH have talked maybe two times since our wedding 3 years ago. 

  

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• Impatientgal

  October 2009

  I've never understood why people do this. I think it is tacky to have more than 2 hours between ceremony and reception. Your guests (especially OOTers) shouldn't be left waiting because of pictures and event set-up.
  

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• MamaMyers22

  October 2009

  Impatientgal:

  I've never understood why people do this. I think it is tacky to have more than 2 hours between ceremony and reception. Your guests (especially OOTers) shouldn't be left waiting because of pictures and event set-up.
  

  We had no choice.  2:00 pm was the latest our church performed wedding masses and the reception started at 6pm.  We did have a cocktail hour at the hotel an hour before the reception, and it allowed time for people to check into their rooms or go freshen up.  

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• anardi

  October 2009

  MamaMyers22:

  Impatientgal:

  I've never understood why people do this. I think it is tacky to have more than 2 hours between ceremony and reception. Your guests (especially OOTers) shouldn't be left waiting because of pictures and event set-up.
  

  We had no choice.  2:00 pm was the latest our church performed wedding masses and the reception started at 6pm.  We did have a cocktail hour at the hotel an hour before the reception, and it allowed time for people to check into their rooms or go freshen up.  

  Ours too mama. All our guests were OOT but we had activities for everyone who was not needed in pictures. That activity was the bar at the country club

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• Impatientgal

  October 2009

  MamaMyers22:

  We had no choice.  2:00 pm was the latest our church performed wedding masses and the reception started at 6pm.  We did have a cocktail hour at the hotel an hour before the reception, and it allowed time for people to check into their rooms or go freshen up.  

  But could you have changed the reception to 5pm? I get that some venues are tight with time- especially if they are doing more than one event per day/night. But 3+ hours waiting around after a ceremony is a long time.

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