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CANNOT self soothe yet??

kcampy31kcampy31 member
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DS will be 4 months on the 17th. We continue to have sleep problems where he can't put himself to sleep...he needs to be rocked until he is out cold. I will rock him until he is asleep and if he isn't totally out he will wake up fussing within a minute...and by totally otu i mean sometimes rocking for an hour. The middle of the night is getting very hard in that he can't go back to sleeo without being rocked for 30-40 min. between every feeding. I am starting to lose it. Also with naps, he needs to be rocked...everytime he sleeps he needs me to help him get there. I have tried drowsy but awake and he just cries. He is going to saycare soon and needs to be able to lay down for a nap and we need to start getting out at night for a bit but I feel like if he wakes up the person watching him won't be able to get him back ( usually just does well with ME). What am I supposed to do? I can't imagine he wiill grow out of this b/c it's the only way he knows to get to sleep. Should he be a;e to sooth himself by now?
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Re: CANNOT self soothe yet??

  • Aimee&BillAimee&Bill
    We had the same problem.  So during the day (I am better at dealing with it then) I put her in her chair when it was time for her nap.  I needed to get stuff done around the house so I turned on some music, turned the lights off, and went and did what I needed to do.  She fussed for about 10 minutes and then I heard nothing.  Went to check and she was out cold.  I have done this everyday since and after after four days, she can put herself to sleep for her nap.  Hope this helps.
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  • ktarr1ktarr1
    I am reading Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child and working through some things in there.  We are having similar napping problems and I am trying to get some "self-soothing" going before I go back to work in less than a month Tongue Tied
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  • BelleBabyBelleBaby member

    Sounds like Ben.  He can't go to sleep unless it's on me.  Of course, at daycare he's fine and can sleep in a swing, chair, etc.  But at home, it's all mom.  We've started trying to break him of it.  I put him to sleep on me then put him on his crib positioner on the bed with me.  I keep it right next to me so he still knows I'm there, but isn't being held.  We're going to gradually move him further away from me until we get him back in the crib.  It's going to be rough because he cannot self soothe.  If he wakes up, he's screaming and the only way he'll stop is if I pick him up.

    Every baby is different.  Maybe ours are just a little more difficult than others.  Ben has always been the more needy of the twins, so it's not like we didn't expect this.  Hang in there.  He'll get it eventually.

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