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Well that was a wierd phone conversation with my MIL
I just got off the phone with my MIL. She is begging me to let Wes tape the birth so she can see it.
I'm sorry but no. My view is that if you weren't in the room for conception, you aren't in the room for birth (docs and nurses excluded obviously). I really don't want anyone, especially my MIL to see that...I just thought it was a weird request. She acted like it hurt her feelings, but I'm sorry but this is one thing she is going to have to get over because I am not going to do it. I hope she doesn't bug Wes to death over this. I love her and all but sometimes she has the strangest requests!
I'm sorry but no. My view is that if you weren't in the room for conception, you aren't in the room for birth (docs and nurses excluded obviously). I really don't want anyone, especially my MIL to see that...I just thought it was a weird request. She acted like it hurt her feelings, but I'm sorry but this is one thing she is going to have to get over because I am not going to do it. I hope she doesn't bug Wes to death over this. I love her and all but sometimes she has the strangest requests! This discussion has been closed.
Re: Well that was a wierd phone conversation with my MIL
I'm so glad my MIL communicates most often via text. Your MIL is being ridiculous.
Please don't let your MIL talk to mine. That will be the next request I get. Not sure that she fully understands she will NOT be in the room either.
Why do they make these crazy requests of us that they wouldn't entertain themselves?
My bestfriend is actually going to let her MIL be in the room for the delivery of their 2nd child. It's not something I would necessarily be comfortable with, but to each their own.
What we did is use the video camera, shooting little snippets while I was in labor, then when labor got really bad we put away the camera until after Kennedy was born and DH filmed me holding her, talking to her, etc. It was more for us than anyone else, but if the inlaws really wanted to see something you could show them a "before and after" without really the entire birth.
Oh.. and I also had had the same policy of not wanting anyone else in there besides DH and the hospital staff/doctor. But, when it actually got down to it, my mom was there for every second of the birth and I'm so glad she was. I'm not even that close to my mom, but it surprised me... at that moment I needed her support more than ever before. But I would not have wanted my MIL there.
natural m/c and d&c at 10 weeks - 1/24/2014
DX w/ hetero C677t and A1298C MTHFR - 3/4/2014
Lol I wish that only before and after was what she wanted to see. They will be there, along with my parents, and can hang out in L&D until hard labor hits. I'm okay with that...but she wants to see the actual birth...yeah footage of the baby's head crowning and stuff
And you know it's funny but if my mom was in there I'd be okay with it...because I know she'd be there for support and wouldn't be "down there" and watching. But I definitely don't want my MIL in there because she tends to over exaggerate things, and kinda make it about her you know what I mean. She is a sweet lady, but I don't think I could handle her and try to focus on what I was doing. So to be fair we have said when it comes time to do the heavy labor then everyone out except me and Wes.
And Jamey I can relate to what your MIL did about asking your hubby if he'd come get her...mine lives in Florence, which is about an hour and some change from where we are having her, and she is sooo bad with directions. So my BIL showed her how to use the GPS, and set it up for her. Well she then proceeds to tell me well if I get lost I'll just call Wes and he can come get me. Um no he won't be leaving me, sorry. I told her I'd give her my mom's cell phone number so she can call her and my mom can talk her in, but she really thinks that Wes will leave and come get her. Let's just hope my FIL will be home (he works on the road) and can drive her in.
my MIL didn't talk to me for a month over this exact conversation...it was ridiculous. As it was, NO ONE could be in the room except for DH so it worked out for the best.
And - it was actually sort of nice too because I was in recovery for 4 hours without Avery... they were able to go ooh and aah over her during that time and I got to have some time by myself to sort of relax and rest up. Of course I wanted to be with Avery but the idea of having everyone there right away was overwhelming
"mine lives in Florence, which is about an hour and some change from where we are having her, and she is sooo bad with directions."
OMG, I lived in Florence while going to UNA. I drove back and forth every weekend to see Josh and go to my church. That is like a straight shot! From Florence to ANYWHERE it is a straight shot! lol!
after anovulatory diagnosis and TTC for 1 1/2yrs with several medicated cycles and one chemical pregnancy, we have our first bundle of joy!
IT'S A GIRL!
#2 EDD 2/5/13 dx with anti-BIG E antibody, seeing a MFM
I don't take one single minute for granted.
Very true! But she doesn't do well with directions unfortunately, or Huntsville traffic. So instead of having her go all the way down 72 until she can take the Memorial Drive exit (because we knew she'd get so lost and be wandering around) we are having her turn off 72 in Madison at County Line and going to catch 565 to take the Governors Dr. exit because that will take her straight there. But she is still thinking she'll get lost and she's probably right lol. So keeping my fingers crossed FIL will be able to get her here.
By the way I went to UNA as well and lived in Florence four years.
WOW. I can't believe this request. That's crazy.
And I laughed when you said "if you weren't in the room for conception you aren't for the birth" That's my thought. Now I might feel differently when time comes to have my mom in there but I really just want it DH and me.
We don't have a spare bed in our house right now, as all my furniture is in the condo. So we have a fold out sofa. DH and I will usually sleep on it when we have guests. Of course my family forbid this now w/me being pg. We had to TELL my in laws that would be the case when they are here at the end of the month. Uh, I'll be almost 20 wks and there's no way I'll sleep on a fold out then!!!! They were kidding and said maybe they should bring a tent. uh maybe you should plan ahead and get a hotel room!!!!
They need to get a hotel room! At least they have a long way to come once you go into labor!