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I have to start lying to DH

heathergirl67heathergirl67 member
in TTC After a Loss

I got my first exasperated sigh from DH.  Out of the blue during a conversation I brought up an idea that I thought might help me get KU and he did the sigh and frustrated shaking his head thing.  This is the first sign that I've gotten that he's sick of

A.  Me talking about getting KU too much or

B.  Me thinking about getting KU too much. 

So now I have to limit what I'll tell him about what's going through my mind regarding TTC.  After all, I don't want him getting his panties in a wad and holding out on me.

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  • Texas77againTexas77again member
    yeah save it.  most men don't want to hear about every little thing.  that's what we are here for!
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  • travers081906travers081906
    Awh sweetie I am sorry... =( I had to unfortunatly do this also with my DH when I was still coping with my m/c
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  • M0815M0815 member
    My husband knows almost nothing about this stuff bc he wouldn't get it. We did IUI's and I still managed to keep him in the dark. He puts out bc he doesn't know what's going on. I personally think it's a mistake to talk too much about this stuff with men if you're not dealing with MFI.
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  • Leah11599Leah11599
    I have to sensor what I tell my DH too! It kinda sucks!
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  • cintimcintim
    Oh, yea... I agree. I barely tell DH anything about this stuff and I'm pretty sure he's happy about it. He doesn't even know when I'm Oing.... he'll randomly ask and only then do I tell him.
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  • Kelly0615Kelly0615

    imageTexas77again:
    yeah save it.  most men don't want to hear about every little thing.  that's what we are here for!

    Totally this! We're here for you!

    02/08 BFP resulted in m/c 4/10/08 (11 weeks)
    10/08 Clomid Cycle #1 = m/c 11/7/08 (6 weeks)
    03/09 Clomid Cycle #2 = BFN
    3 rounds of Femara + Ovidrel + IUI =BFN
    10/18/09 2nd Break Cycle (post HSG) before IVF #1 = BFP!

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  • sydney0928sydney0928
    I've been having that prob too. My DH just doesn't talk much about it, and I know he feels bad that every time we BD that's all I'm thinking about these days. So I just stopped talking about it, and will hopefully surprise him soon with a BFP!
    BFP #1- 1/16/09- Baby Ava stillborn at 32 weeks, possible cord accident, 7/30/09
    BFP #2- 1/5/10- Baby Jack born at 37w2d, 6lbs 13 oz, 8/24/10
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  • ERICA21779ERICA21779
    I agree ...........my dh definately wants to know what's going on but he doesn't want to hear about it all the time.  Maybe he was just having a bad day?
     
    We are actively TTC but I don't even tell him when our fertile week is.  He probably thinks he's getting extra lucky that week!
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  • ?Jacqueline? ?Jacqueline?
    The past two cycles I have talked less and less about TTC and tried to keep every little thing I noticed in my body form him. He gets the same way, he worries that I think about it too much and let it take over my life. Now I just let him know when I am Oing.
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  • mlmtggmlmtgg

    this is me.

    I think if DH knew how much I thought about this stuff for real, researched this stuff, talked to you girls, etc. . . he would flip out and think I've lost my mind. he is all for information, research, friends and support but I think he would think I am gaga. . . . so it's things he wants to know I tell him loads about, when I'm upset or need to talk to him about some of it I do, and that is that. 

     keep the peace.

    m/c#1 07/16/08 (11 weeks), m/c#2 10/10/08 (8 weeks). and then nothing since except every test possible (no answers). IUI#1 and #2: BFNs Super lucky to be buddies with Peetie. Our out of nowhere, surprise DD born 5/29/2011
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  • summerbee1summerbee1 member

    Yeah I think you need to keep most of it to yourself. My DH gets pissy if I talk about anything "too much" (which usually means more than 2 minutes) unless it is work related or something he wants to talk about. I don't think men understand....

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