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I think I'm turning into the grinch

triumphantreturnofplanningbugtriumphantreturnofplanningbug
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I HATE the holidays.

I HATE the annual fights over travel that I always thought we finally solved the year before.

I HATE the guilt trips.

I HATE that I live too far away to drive over, beat some sense into his sister, and then drive home.

And I HATE HATE HATE that we're doing this yet again. I do not have enough time in my schedule to spend a day a week fighting and crying over his idiot behavior, the way he keeps telling me one thing and then changing his mind and assuming I won't mind if we have to have the same flipping conversation over again because he changed his mind...I just hate everything about this.

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  • triumphantreturnofplanningbugtriumphantreturnofplanningbug

    And times like this, I hate that he's my facebook friend so I can't *** about his idiocy there.

     

     

     

     

    I think I'm out of things over which to throw a fit now.

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  • Joes_loveJoes_love member

    so completely with you.  but i have to say, being able to drive to everyone doesn't solve ***- b/c all they do is argue about who we're going to see first and how long we spend with each family.  it's a farking nightmare.  the problem is, my family doesn't care- they get that we're married and will need to split our time up.  but they're the ones i WANT to spend the time with.

    and i so totally get you on the facebook thing.  he even follows me on twitter so i'm not safe there either.

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  • HippinskiHippinski

    Sad

    Hugs.

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  • Dobie_MamaDobie_Mama
    imageJoes_love:

    so completely with you.  but i have to say, being able to drive to everyone doesn't solve ***- b/c all they do is argue about who we're going to see first and how long we spend with each family.  it's a farking nightmare.  the problem is, my family doesn't care- they get that we're married and will need to split our time up.  but they're the ones i WANT to spend the time with.

    This is exactly us too.  It sucks.  I'm sorry you guys are dealing with it too. :(

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  • triumphantreturnofplanningbugtriumphantreturnofplanningbug

    Thanks for the sympathy women.

    What's killing me today is that the longer DH spends on the phone with them, the more likely he is to pull BS lines like "so are you telling me that the next time we're going to go to Their City is for my grandmother's funeral? Or my dad's funeral?" Low blow, jackass, low blow. If I'm mature enough to refrain from playing the Dead Father Card to get what I want, your parents should be mature enough to refrain from playing the I'm Not Going To Live Forever Card, and you need to recognize that for the passive-aggressive guilt-tripping BS that it is.  Angry

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  • mrsjjdmrsjjd
    This is the one and ONLY perk of my inlaws being Jehovah witnesses...they don't celebrate holidays, so we're always with my family.....
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  • triumphantreturnofplanningbugtriumphantreturnofplanningbug

    imagemrsjjd:
    This is the one and ONLY perk of my inlaws being Jehovah witnesses...they don't celebrate holidays, so we're always with my family.....

    I don't suppose your ILs would like to convert mine, would they?

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  • SB&JSB&J

    I know there is a history of holiday plans with your respective families & now expectations are in place, so a change is never easy... but FWIW - here's what we do/have always done, and I never ever feel the way you do about the holidays because our "holiday policy" is very simple.... 2 points:

    1. We stay at home.

    2. Visitors are always welcome. (It helps that we do not have any extra room for overnight guests. Naturally limits how long they can visit.) Wink

    This policy has been in place since we were married & we have never once deviated from it & never will.  I can't imagine having all this stress & worry you have at a time when we should be able to relax & enjoy the holiday times. We never stress, we just wake up in our own house, DS gets to look at his stocking, open gifts, eat a leisurely breakfast, go to church, etc.

    I know our policy won't work for everyone but I'm telling you - it saves so much trouble! No discussions! Everyone knows what we are doing for any holiday on the calendar - just chilling here with my boys. We feel like that's what the holidays are about.

    I hope things settle down, it sounds like you are so frustrated & stressed. Hang in there. ((Hugs))

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