Could somebody tell me...

jcyahne · October 2009

what is so hard about RSVP'ing? I have no idea how many people to expect for Jillian's birthday party this weekend.

cmcmillan · October 2009

If you feel comfortable, you could call and ask if they are planning on coming.

nykola · October 2009

Story of my life. I'm not convinced RSVPing is a thing of the past--at least for my generation. It drives me crazy. When I threw my husband's big 30th birthday a few years ago, I actually had two separate people ASK me what "RSVP" meant.

Oh for shame....Where is Peggy Post when you need her?

On the serious side, I think people are too wrapped up in their own lives and just fail to respond. Some people are even under the notion that lack of a response IS a response. Whatever. I am still disgruntled that we had to CALL 60% of our wedding guests who failed to RSVP.

Seattle_JiLLn · October 2009

Start calling.

Or if you want to be mean, start calling people saying "I"m so sorry we won't see you this weekend... we'll miss you" and then they'll say "oh we're coming!" and you say "oh you are? I didn't think you were since you didn't RSVP".

mishquiche · October 2009

Ah, I wondered this during wedding planning. People just can't do it. I agree with PP - I would call and ask.

mishquiche · October 2009

Seattle_JiLLn:

Start calling.

Or if you want to be mean, start calling people saying "I"m so sorry we won't see you this weekend... we'll miss you" and then they'll say "oh we're coming!" and you say "oh you are? I didn't think you were since you didn't RSVP".

Yes! I vote for this.

CDMay2006 · October 2009

mishquiche:
Seattle_JiLLn:
Start calling.
Or if you want to be mean, start calling people saying "I"m so sorry we won't see you this weekend... we'll miss you" and then they'll say "oh we're coming!" and you say "oh you are? I didn't think you were since you didn't RSVP".

Yes! I vote for this.

Passive-agressive, in an elegant way : )

jcyahne · October 2009

For my baby shower we did outright ask since it was at a restaurant and head count was crucial. Arrrggghh. Even our grandparents, aunts and uncles are bad about RSVP's.

preston18 · October 2009

Seattle_JiLLn:
Start calling.

Or if you want to be mean, start calling people saying "I"m so sorry we won't see you this weekend... we'll miss you" and then they'll say "oh we're coming!" and you say "oh you are? I didn't think you were since you didn't RSVP".

Tempting, but an etiquette fail as it makes the other person uncomfortable and/or embarrassed. THAT is the number one violation of good manners.

Nancy_Drew · October 2009

I put "regrets to" and our phone number...... My Mom didn't know what that meant and asked me. Then said, "you should just put RSVP next time since people don't know what that means".........?????

OK, even if you've never seen it, you can figure it out...

KNemo · October 2009

I am so guilty of this!

I RSVP'd to our friends Rehearsal Dinner, but not the Wedding?! I think it has something to do with the fact that our mail carrier doesn't take outgoing mail, and those big blue postal boxes are so hard to find now a days. Sorry you are going through this. Like PP said, you could call people. But that sucks that you have to do it!

chibipoe · October 2009

My sister confessed to me that she NEVER sent an RVSP for a wedding until she planned her own wedding and she's been to A LOT of weddings during the last few years. I was so ashamed.

kimberly.kent · October 2009

I would politely call and check. My hostess didn't for our shower and after the fact, we found out that half of the guests never received their invitations for some reason yet we didn't have them returned either. This also happened with my friends wedding. I don't think the postal service is as reliable as it once was.

JRS72206 · October 2009

I hate that. People are rude.

Seattle_JiLLn · October 2009

preston18:
Seattle_JiLLn:

Start calling.

Or if you want to be mean, start calling people saying "I"m so sorry we won't see you this weekend... we'll miss you" and then they'll say "oh we're coming!" and you say "oh you are? I didn't think you were since you didn't RSVP".

Tempting, but an etiquette fail as it makes the other person uncomfortable and/or embarrassed. THAT is the number one violation of good manners.

Yeah I probably wouldn't have the balls to do that, but it sure would be tempting.

And somehow I would love to teach people what RSVP means. It doesn't mean "regrets only". It means RESPOND.

In my circle, we really don't have this problem amazingly enough. I only had 2 people not RSVP to our wedding.

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