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Can I whine for a minute?

MouseygailMouseygail member
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I am going to a wedding this weekend and my entire group of friends will be there...we were the first out of the group to try for children...and now even the late bloomers are starting to be ready...so DH and I will be there with my bff who is currently accidentally pregnant with twins, another couple who got accidentally pregnant and then did it AGAIN and will soon have two under 1 year, and several other that have babies.  And I can't even drink because I'm in the 2WW.  Crying  I'm already struggling with extreme jealousy today and I haven't even seen their cute baby bumps! 
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Re: Can I whine for a minute?

  • negrilbride07negrilbride07
    Oooh, that's a tough one.  Here's hoping that you will be able to enjoy yourself in spite of sucky IF.
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  • waitwhatwaitwhat
    It really isn't fair, is it???  When I have had to deal with similar situations, I tried to deal with all of the IF bitterness, jealousy and frustration before the event to avoid bursting out into tears at someone else's party.  It isn't easy but all you can do is try to be strong and enjoy the event.
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  • PrincessBrideSarahPrincessBrideSarah

    The mantras that help me (at least a little) in such situations are:

    -I don't want their baby, I want our baby.

    -Their ability to get pregnant has no bearing on my ability to get pregnant.

    -There is no limit on the number of pregnancies that can occur this year (as in, the fact that someone else is pregnant does not mean that the quota of pregnancies has been reached and DH and I don't get to have a pregnancy).

    Good luck! You can get through this (that's another thing I tell myself).

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  • MouseygailMouseygail member
    imagePrincessBrideSarah:

    -There is no limit on the number of pregnancies that can occur this year (as in, the fact that someone else is pregnant does not mean that the quota of pregnancies has been reached and DH and I don't get to have a pregnancy).

    Thats a great one!!  because it totally feels like they are "using up our chances" with their accidental pg!!

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  • BenandDinaBenandDina
    I can imagine that you would feel really frustrated - I hope that you can enjoy it still, despite all the baby bumps.  And, keep in mind that when your pregnancy comes, it won't be a whoopsies-accidental one, but one that will be cherished, wanted, adored, prayed for, hoped for, thought about and loved to pieces.
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  • Dragonfly1226Dragonfly1226 member
    Oh gosh - that's tough. I really hope you get your BFP at the end of this 2ww!
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