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Totally shell-shocked

mh2tmh2t
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So, DD is 8 days old now and I still cannot wrap my head around the fact that she is my daughter.  When does that craziness start to set in?  And when does life stop feeling so surreal?  I am home with the baby, not quite sure what to do with myself, and DH is out interacting with the world.  I just sent him a text saying that I missed him.  I don't usually do that.
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Re: Totally shell-shocked

  • yellowcaryellowcar

    All those feelings are perfectly natural, and I had them too.  Your whole life just turned upside down, inside-out and round and round!  Plus, you have hormones you didn't even know existed.  You will snap out of it, but calling it "shell-shocked" is pretty accurate!  If it gets to be weeks and weeks and you still aren't feeling connected to Natasha or are feeling really down, talk to your OB, your DH, your BFF, anyone.  THAT is not natural.

    But in the short term, can you get out of the house for a few minutes?  Put Natasha in the stroller and walk around the block.  You will be amazed at what a little fresh air will do for you.  She is breathtakingly cute, by the way.

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  • Katlady84Katlady84

    Goodness, I *still* feel that way sometimes. I don't know if it that feeling will ever go away completely

     She's beautiful, congrats! 

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  • jwallyjwally
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    All those feelings are perfectly natural, and I had them too.  Your whole life just turned upside down, inside-out and round and round!  Plus, you have hormones you didn't even know existed.  You will snap out of it, but calling it "shell-shocked" is pretty accurate!  If it gets to be weeks and weeks and you still aren't feeling connected to Natasha or are feeling really down, talk to your OB, your DH, your BFF, anyone.  THAT is not natural.

    But in the short term, can you get out of the house for a few minutes?  Put Natasha in the stroller and walk around the block.  You will be amazed at what a little fresh air will do for you.  She is breathtakingly cute, by the way.

    yellowcar is right and so are you for calling it shell-shocked! looking back  at the days/weeks following ds' birth i was truly traumatized. everything had changed and i didn't have that magical, immediate connection with my baby that everyone else had described. dh was out doing normal things too and that didn't help. the hormones and the trauma wore off about week 3 post partum and after that things started feeling normal again.

     i second getting out of the house if you can. i walked really slowly to the mail box and took lots of deep breaths of the fresh air on the way. it was a godsend to have a good friend come hold the baby while i went to walmart by myself. it's the little things. :)

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  • jeffraejeffrae member

    Addy is 5 weeks old and I still have those moments "really, I have a daughter??".  lol.  So, I have no clue!  It is hard when no one is around...I am just now getting used to it as we had grandparents with us for four weeks.

    I LOVE her name by the way!

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  • mh2tmh2t
    Thanks, ladies.  It's nice to know that others feel the same way!
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