WWYD re: FF carseat and an 8 month old

Crissyjo30 · September 2009

A girl I went to High School with has a son who is 8 months old. I follow her blog and we are friends on FB. We were never super good friends in high school (almost 10 years ago), but have always kept in touch and know what is going on in one anothers lives.

She posted pics yesterday on her blog of her son in his new carseat. Forward Facing. He is a big, big boy - he weighed more at 6 months than DD did at 1 year. So I am assuming that was her reasoning to face it forward.

What should I do? Write a comment on the blog post? Send her a message on FB? I dont want to look like a crazy stalker/carseat police but I just don't think she knows. TIA!

SuperCuteBenz · September 2009

I have had 3-4 facebook friends that all forward faced their 8-10 month olds. I just let them know the law in our state, but it didn't phase any of them. In fact, they think I am crazy because DD is still rear-facing.

J+O · September 2009

I accidently bought Jack a FF carseat and I really didn't know and was glad someone told me on here before I ever took it out of the box months ago. ?I returned it and got the evenflo triumph and plan on having him RF until he reaches the weight limit. ?I would tell her in nicest way possible. ?She may ignore it or if she's like me will be so thankful you shared.?

BartsGirl · September 2009

I might send a message on FB saying something like:

"I apologize if I am overstepping, but I wanted to give you a link about rear facing carseats. I never knew this info until a friend showed me and I just want to pass it on to as many mommy friends as I can."

That way you aren't laying blame or being biitchy, but you still are giving her the info.

LittleApple · September 2009

I have a friend who turned her 10 month old around too early on FB. I told her about it, backing it up with links and such. She basically said that the car seat technician installed the seats and she is fine and she thanked me for my concern. I left it at that. I don't want to come off as crazy.

You should say something.

newportbride715 · September 2009

I'd probably say something too, but I would make sure it is private. I was clueless about the whole RF thing until this board. We probably would have turned DS around long ago had I not gotten some great info on here. DS is still RF'ing for now, thanks to the Bump!

lovely40 · September 2009

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q8gU9zzCGA8&feature=related

a couple of my friends were posting this video around on facebook awhile ago. I would post it and hope she sees it.

Temp174496125006552 · September 2009

BartsGirl:

I might send a message on FB saying something like:

"I apologize if I am overstepping, but I wanted to give you a link about rear facing carseats. I never knew this info until a friend showed me and I just want to pass it on to as many mommy friends as I can."

That way you aren't laying blame or being biitchy, but you still are giving her the info.

This is pretty much what I was going to say.

My sister turned my nephew around right at a year. I figured that she didn't know about ERF (she didn't) and I passed along the link to the crash tests. I told her that it's totally her decision as his parent, but if, God forbid, they were in an accident and I hadn't said anything and he was injured, I would never forgive myself. After she watched the links, she told me that she really wanted to turn him back to RFing, but she had to talk to her husband about it. I saw her on Friday and my nephew is still FF. In fact, her husband made a comment about Ben "still facing backwards" and sort of rolled his eyes. You know what? I gave her the info and now she knows about ERF....and I know that I did what I could for my nephew.

BartsGirl · September 2009

I just posted this on FB:

If you have a baby please watch this important video. I know I didn't know this information before I had Benjamin. He will be rear facing as long as possible.

Then I linked it to this youtube video:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y2DVfqFhseo

mamamoos · September 2009

newportbride715:
I'd probably say something too, but I would make sure it is private. I was clueless about the whole RF thing until this board. We probably would have turned DS around long ago had I not gotten some great info on here. DS is still RF'ing for now, thanks to the Bump!

ditto all of this. i had no idea about ERF until i came to the bump. PM her on facebook and just tell her you wanted to pass on some info that she can do with what she wants...i definitely wouldn't post it openly on her wall in case she is embarrassed or feels like you're attacking her parenting or something...

avonbride · September 2009

I would say something. There is a big difference between choosing to continually RF after 1 year and FF before one year. There is a reason it is 20 pounds AND one year. The child's body is not formed properly before one year and therefore is at greater risk for injury FF.

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WWYD re: FF carseat and an 8 month old

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If you have a baby please watch this important video. I know I didn't know this information before I had Benjamin. He will be rear facing as long as possible.

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