name stealing
pumkiepoo
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Ok so my DH and I are TTC first month. His sister found out she was pregnant on our honeymoon. His mom asked us if we had names picked out for when we have kids and we told her our boy name...how about his sister has the same name picked out. Well now she is starting to think of a different name.
So if she ends up having a girl and we have a boy would it be right to use that boy name even though she was pregnant first? If she has a boy and we have a boy and they don't use that name would it be ok to use that name?
I've just been bothered by this for weeks now and being that I'm an only child and don't know sister rules if anyone had any thoughts. (I know this might be silly too but so many of my friends have had babies and taken some of our top names, i'm tired of my names being taken before I can even get pregnant)
TTC 09/09
BFP 12/03/09
1st m/c 1/8/10 @ 9w5d, baby measured 6w1d
Clomid 50mg Nov 11=BFN (not monitored)
Clomid 50mg Dec 11=BFN (not monitored)
Clomid 50mg Jan 11=? (day 12 sono)
Re: name stealing
When she has the baby, she should use whichever name she likes. When you have a baby, you should use whichever name you like.
There is no guarantee both of you will have a boy and a girl. I would not avoid a boy name if/when you have a boy, b/c of a slight a chance that someday her 2nd child will be a boy. The same goes for her.
I'd just say whoever has the first opportunity to use it should be able to go for it. Especially if it's a coincidence and not a direct steal.
It's frustrating to have the same name picked out, but it does happen.
Name your child whatever you like and she can name her child whatever she likes. Good luck to you for a BFP.
ETA: My mom's brother named his son the same name my mom used for her son. So my brother and my cousin have the same name. It's never messed anyone up and my mother never gave a d@mn about it. When I asked her if that bothered her she looked at me like I was crazy and said, "How silly. Why would that bother me?" But you come on here and people are all worked up about it!
My cousin stole my girl name. It's a good thing I had a boy or else I wouldve had to kill her.
And I think its a big deal. Just like on Seinfeld when the name "Seven" was stolen.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
She may like the name now but once LO arrives she may change her mind. I wouldn't worry about it. Same w/ you and your dh.
This is one of the main reasons we've kept ds name under wraps. While it drives people nuts we're doing it for this very reason.
after anovulatory diagnosis and TTC for 1 1/2yrs with several medicated cycles and one chemical pregnancy, we have our first bundle of joy!
IT'S A GIRL!
#2 EDD 2/5/13 dx with anti-BIG E antibody, seeing a MFM
I don't take one single minute for granted.
This is why you shouldn't share names. Even though you don't have "claim" over it, it causes these feelings if someone else in the family or close to you happens to like it as well. At least if you keep it to yourself, you won't feel like it was "stolen" from you.
I know my sister has always loved the name Abigail. Will she when she gets PG? I dunno, but no way would I use it, even if she had 6 boys and I had girls.