Tonight may be the night...

water-fairy · September 2009

... that we try sex. I feel like a high schooler, very nervous to do it for the first time!!

Had a 1st degree tear, a couple of stitches and have been feeling good since 1week pp, but for some reason I am terrified to have sex. Tell me the truth, how much does it hurt????

TrumpetBride · September 2009

Lube is your friend...

kkenner · September 2009

I was so freaking nervous and hyped myself up. Turns out it was nothing. It was sort of uncomfortable but not painful. GL!!!

dgurl26 · September 2009

I didn't think it was that bad but we used LOTS of lube. I suggest doing the same oh and go slow but other than that go for it!

mel1987 · September 2009

we tried at 5weeks, didn't even put it in all the way because it hurt, so we stopped. At 10 weeks everything felt even better than it did before pregnancy, GL!

water-fairy · September 2009

TrumpetBride:
Lube is your friend...

No doubt it will be running like a river Stick out tongue

H4'sFan · September 2009

TrumpetBride:
Lube is your friend...

So true!

A glass of wine helps, too. Good luck!

DoubleDiamond · September 2009

Lube!

And foreplay.

And lots of honesty and verbalizing about what feels good or bad.

DoubleDiamond · September 2009

H4'sFan:

TrumpetBride:
Lube is your friend...

So true!

A glass of wine helps, too. Good luck!

Yes, and wine!

erino&chrish · September 2009

GL. I had a c-section and we tried it 4 weeks pp. It was okay, just a little dry down there. Like pp's said, lube is your friend..or good foreplay. GL!

thatgirlang · September 2009

Oh, good luck! I was great this time but didn't have any tears or stitches. With DS1 I did though and it was a little painful. Just take your time and definitely use lubricant. Honestly, pooping after DS1 was way way WAY harder and more painful than sex.

TrumpetBride · September 2009

DoubleDiamond:

Lube!

And foreplay.

And lots of honesty and verbalizing about what feels good or bad.

Yep. Don't forget your hormones are still totally whacked. So foreplay, wine help. Getting in the mood was a pretty big problem for me. However, it was quickly solved.

ShawnaDanielle · September 2009

I was so nervous about the first time, I told DH I thought I was going to throw-up...LOL. Really didn't hurt bad at all!!

poopteen · September 2009

DoubleDiamond:
Lube!

And foreplay.

And lots of honesty and verbalizing about what feels good or bad.

This. And a beer/glass of vino/Mike's Hard Lemonade.

For me, it only hurt *ahem* externally, and once he was in, we were golden. And it kinda seems better now than it was pre-pg, interestingly enough.

poopteen · September 2009

thatgirlang:
Oh, good luck! I was great this time but didn't have any tears or stitches. With DS1 I did though and it was a little painful. Just take your time and definitely use lubricant. Honestly, pooping after DS1 was way way WAY harder and more painful than sex.

lol. so true.

sweetyface77 · September 2009

I was scared it would hurt, but DH took his time and it was a lot better than I thought it would be. I had a slight tear and a couple of stitches. Just remember to use lube so you are not uncomfortable and definitely relax!

Shlei · September 2009

Yes lube and taking very slow. My Fiance and I found that missionary was the easiest one on me (I had a second degree tear).

DoubleDiamond · September 2009

Ha ha! I remember being TERRIFIED of pooping...and then having some "Smooth Move" tea and having the opposite problem on my hands.

Tomkat8403 · September 2009

In the words of Carrie Bradshaw, I was "Drunkity drunk drunk" when we finally did it. Big Smile

It hurt the first and second time, but mostly internally for some reason. Still haven't done it a third time....

It's not excruciating or anything though, so don't be super worried. It was just mildly uncomfortable.

Aug Bride · September 2009

I had a c-section and it did not hurt as bad as I thought. Just take things slow at first.

BTW: Those photos in your siggy are so beautiful!

howa0155 · September 2009

For like two seconds - then you're good! Honestly, it was so much better than pg sex (for me anyway). GL! Drink some wine too!!

MattysGirl81 · September 2009

I had a 2nd degree tear and also felt really good starting at 1 week pp. It still hurt! Couldn't do much the first night we tried. It has gotten much better.

laurenshay · September 2009

It really wasn't horrible and I had a 2nd degree tear. You'll be fine. Relax, have a glass (or 3) of wine and go for it!

Have fun!

water-fairy · September 2009

Thanks ladies!!!

::runs to the store to get wine::

Btw, I solved the pooping problem with colace+prune juice. Never had a problem Big Smile

aniceucchik · September 2009

GL waterfairy!!! we havent yet and im terrified! 3rd degree tear here and i still have painful granulation tissue that wont go away

we actually havent had sex since conception so we are waaaay behind...i have forgotten what its like! Hope all goes well

grinsandgiggles · September 2009

It'll be fine as long as you use lube.

MrsWanee · September 2009

good for you guys!

hope it goes well! i will not be attempting it until i get mirena put in in 2 weeks. plus, DH has been begging for it so much that it's put me in a permanent bad mood

water-fairy · September 2009

aniceucchik:
GL waterfairy!!! we havent yet and im terrified! 3rd degree tear here and i still have painful granulation tissue that wont go away we actually havent had sex since conception so we are waaaay behind...i have forgotten what its like! Hope all goes well

OMG, how do you go without sex for almost a year?

MidwestTexan · September 2009

Missionary is pain-free, so is on-top...the others, like doggy style, require some TLC.

lasirene · September 2009

We just did it on Friday night & I was terrified but it didn't hurt at all!!! Plenty of lube helped out. It was just nice to feel like us again rather than just mom & dad!

*Caress* · September 2009

It's not that bad, it was uncomfortable the first time but it gets better. Stick out tongue

*Caress* · September 2009

It's not that bad, it was uncomfortable the first time but it gets better. Stick out tongue

jolis_petits_bijoux · September 2009

Good luck! As PPs said, lube + a drink or two will help.

It was hard on me, and I had a C/S, so I think that part of it is hormone-related. Plus, if you BF it can leave you bone-dry (for me anyway). Lube, lube, lube.

The second time we tried it was a week or so later, and it was much better.