Someone I knew from highschool (knew of her in highschool - was not friends with her) lost her 1 month old son on Friday (shortly after birth they determined he had some chromosomal issues and would not survive). Anyways, I am not friends with her on FB, but have seen other people's status updates and posts about the situation. So someone I am friends with on FB (not close friends with - just an acquaitance from HS) wrote this whole big thing on the girl who lost her baby's wall telling her she was sorry, she was thinking of her, etc etc. But then goes on to say stuff like how the Lord knows what he is doing and there must be a reason. You may go on to have another child you wouldn't have had if Aiden was still here..blah blah blah. I mean like a paragraph on why the Lord knows what he is doing and how everything happens for a reason.
Now, I truly believe this but I think its one of the most annoying things to say to someone who has lost a pregnancy or a baby. Maybe 6 months down the road share this with the person, but not 3 days after her baby died! All she wants right now is her son back. There doesn't seem like there could be any good reason at this point in her grief. I know this friend had good intentions, I just wish people had a better understanding of what not to say to people who have lost babies.
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The sad thing is, she is probably congratulating herself on being such a thoughtful, caring and compassionate person to write such nonsense.
I am a Christian, have faith, believe that things happen for a reason...etc...but I would never ever tell someone who lost a child that the Lord knows what he is doing. Unless I wanted to get punched in the face.
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I don't believe for a minute the God took her son. I think He weeps with her.
It's an asinine thing to say no matter WHAT you believe anyway.
A friend of mine lost her son during childbirth last week and one of her friends just asked if another friend of hers could have all his baby stuff & crib and such. SERIOUSLY? It's been 7 days! Can she have a minute to grieve?
People are idiots.
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This is wrong on too many levels to count.