DS is getting so rough! WWYD?

FutureMrsWagner · September 2009

Wow! I feel like I say "no" all day long now. He has gotten into the stage where he is just so rough. He tries to hit me and the dog and other things in the house with his toy golf clubs and his big sister's baton...he will pull my hair if I have my back to him...he pushes on me and others saying, "mimi" which means "move"...pulls the dogs tail...he has even slapped me in the face!

Gosh, I know all of that sounds terrible and he sounds like a crappy kid from what I just wrote! He is actually a really sweet, loving little guy who is happy 99% of the time, is not a whiner, loves us and the dog sooo much, is funny and smart...yada, yada, yada! Really, he's great! He is not a terror or anything like that! LOL!

He's just going through this stage where he wants to test his limits and see what he can get away with I guess. I didn't expect it to start so early, so I'm just not sure how to handle it. I tell him "No" firmly and then remove the object from his hand or remove him from the situation, but sometimes I wonder if he needs a little spanking. He seems so young to spank, but I don't want him to think he can get away with these things and I certainly don't want him hitting and pushing and stuff when he is 3 or 4.

WWYD?

franciscaz · September 2009

I had to physically tackle my child to get his diaper changed. I've got all sympathy. We pick our battles. I let him go crazy with his toys and he has lots of back yard time!!!

When it comes to being gentle with the animals, letting me pump, hitting or biting, or breaking the electronics than we tell him no and reinforce it with timeout if he starts acting up or continues the action.

Its hard. Today is my first day with him home alone and it has been a 24/7 challenge but knowing my twins are coming home soon I'm just trying to be consistent.

mrsfitz35 · September 2009

My DD is just a tad younger than your son. We've reached the testing our boundaries portion of the program too. She's also had a few hitting incidents but only me and the dog. Redirection proved successful with pushing boundaries but I want to take hitting a little more seriously. We started time outs last week and it has been very effective. I've only had to do it twice and it seems to immediately have stopped the issue.

When she hit, I picked her up and put her in the corner of the couch. I sat right and front of her, on her level and said "You will not hit. This is time out and you will come here anytime you hit." She screamed bloody murder but all I did was place my hand on her chest (I did not restrain her) and if she tried to stand, I put her back. She sat that way until my count of 60. I said "You didn't like that, did you?" she shook her head "no". I said "Well, mommy doesn't like it when you hit. Tell mommy you are sorry". She doesn't say "I'm sorry" yet, but does understand the concept because I've used it when she's accidentally gotten too rough with the dog or a cousin. She hugged me and kissed me and laid her head on my shoulder for a few minutes. It has happened 1 time since then (2 weeks tomorrow) while we were at my aunt's house. I took her to a chair, sat her down and followed the same process. She tried to get up once and she cried but not like she did before. I used the same words and the same steps.

As long as you DS has a strong understanding of words (even if he can't say them) and simple instructions, this might work. No promises but it might be worth a try.

I'm not totally against spanking but it does seem counterintuitive to hit for hitting.

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