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kelbel527
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Refusing to serve coffee to PG women?!?
kelbel527
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I heard this on the radio this morning and was shocked! Apparently there is a coffee chain (they didn't name names) that won't serve lattes to obviously pregnant woman. Apparently they talked about this on The View recently too.
A local woman went to buy one and the manager asked her if she should be drinking that since she's obviously pregnant? She said, yes my doctor has approved this and it's my only caffeniated beverage all day. They still didn't let her purchase one and gave her a 1/2 caff instead.
Has this happened to you? I'd be so mad!
Big Kid Jan 2010
Littlest Man Sept 2012
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Re: Refusing to serve coffee to PG women?!?
sounds fishy to me
you can't legally deny a pregnant woman an alcoholic drink, so I doubt this is legal.
Oh hell no, Anna, I wish I had been there! B!tch, say it again, my pregnant a$$ will whoop your meddling one!
Well, I'm not "obviously pregnant" so it hasn't happened to me, yet, but I would throw a fit if it did. There's so much ignorance among the general public - even women who've been pregnant before don't know everything! I mean, who's going to keep up with current research and recommendations unless they are an obstetrician?
I think that lady should teach them a lesson and ask her OB to write a letter about what is safe for a pregnant woman to drink - show them to back off of what they clearly don't understand! How ridiculous!
This! I ran to the liquor store to buy DH some beer for his fishing trip today. I don't drink coffee all that much, but heaven forbid someone tells me know, pregnant hormonal b*tch will come raging out!
FYI, I believe it's even illegal to refuse to serve a pregnant woman alcohol in a bar unless she seems obviously drunk. It's a discriminatory practice and they can't refuse to serve anyone of legal age.
I get upset about these things because it's like our society takes away the autonomy of women as soon as they get pregnant. As if we are suddenly too stupid to make decisions for ourselves and our children. (One of the reasons I hate the pregnancy brain thing, too.)
You are so funny, I've literally been laughing for 5 minutes over your response!
This.
When I was 61/2 months pregnant, my husband and I were in DC on a babymoon. We went to breakfast and I ordered coffee, which I had not had since I found out I was pregnant, mainly because I had lost my taste for it. The waitress looked at me, looked down at my stomach and said with a tone "decaf?" I responded in a tone and said, "No. Regular." During my pregnancy, I followed all of the suggested "rules" - no lunchmeat, no rare steak, no alcohol, etc., etc, not to mention that I took my prenatal vitamins religiously AND was giving myself daily injections of a blood thinner. I was beyond angry. That was 2 years ago and it STILL infuriates me.
I don't think it's illegal, actually. Most restaurants, etc have the right to refuse service to anyone. I dunno, though...I just know I've seen signs in them and as a previous bartender, my boss told me that if I didn't feel comfortable serving someone I didn't have to.
I think in wisconsin you have the right to refuse service to anyone, unless they fall under a protected class. Which you might be able to extend to pregnant women.
But I totally agree that these things are ridiculous. We still have the right to make decisions about our own bodies and our own children!
Big Kid Jan 2010
Littlest Man Sept 2012
I've been asked if I should "really be ordering that" at a restaurant when I ordered a seafood dish. It was low-mercury and fully cooked, and I'm not even that obviously pregnant. The Pregnancy Police are seriously my biggest pet peeve--it makes me want to walk around with a beer in my hand and an unlit cigarette in my mouth just to spite them.
On an equestrian message board that I occasionally post on, someone mentioned having an occasional doctor-approved glass of wine in their 3rd tri a couple of months ago, and it was an absolute BLOODBATH. People jumped all over the OP saying she was already an unfit mother, was ruining her baby, etc. The vast majority of them didn't have kids and knew nothing about pregnancy.
At least in WA it's illegal, I've worked in many restaurants and taken the liquor board class regularly. If I felt uncomfortable I could have someone else serve her but I couldn't refuse service. It's only happpened occasionally.
There was a post about this a couple of months ago. I think a pregnant woman did sue a coffee shop for serving her caffiene. Although I do think it's ridiculous, in our "sue happy" society, this coffee places are probably trying to protect their own butts.
To openly deny a women something because she is pregnant is illegal! It is discrimination! Legally you can't deny a pregnant women alcohol as a server, so denying coffee is WAY out of line.
If a company/business wants to make pregnant women aware of the dangers or risks of digesting something, they should hand out brochures.
Actually, the McD's lawsuit was proven to be legit and is taught in law classes as an example of such, because the coffee far exceeded the legal maximum.. Just an fyi!