Those w/babies here...

franciscaz · September 2009

if you had the choice would you wait to take both home from the hospital at the same time or take Twin A home first and let B follow in a few days?

That is possibly my choice. Keep in mind I live an hour away from the NICU and probably couldn't visit my Callum if Rachel comes home b/c no one could watch her. The nurse thinks though it is easier on us to get used to one at a time. Our doc will let us make the choice and write his orders accordingly.

s.s.girl · September 2009

If it's only a matter of a few days, and you get the option, I would take them both home at the same time. We lived close to our NICU but our son came home first (by a day) and even that day was complicated because we couldn't bring him with us to the NICU. So the day my daughter was discharged my husband couldn't be there because he was with my son. Had it been even a few more days I have no idea how we would have done it at all.?

So it was just complicated to try and visit one while trying to find someone to be with the other. I wish I would have said something so we could have gone home with them at the same time.

Good luck. It sounds like maybe your little ones are going to be coming home with you soon??

keg · September 2009

We came home staggered...I came home Sunday, one baby Monday, and the other Tuesday. However, both DH and I had to go on Tuesday for training on her apnea monitor so we had to find someone to stay with our other DD. Other than that, staggered was nice for us. However, in your situation, particularly since you already have DS and therefore are a little used to life at home with a baby, I'd say bring them home together. What may make life a little easier though is if you can get the NICU to give you most of the "stuff" they are going to send home a day or so before they are discharged so you can get a chance to get stuff situated before the babies are home. Good luck!

ncsubride · September 2009

Together I couldn't have left one behind that would have been so hard.

macchiatto · September 2009

I didn't have the NICU experience so take this for what it's worth. But my babies both came home with me and while it was really tough, I think it would have been even harder to bring one home first and leave the other there ... and to adjust to one and then a few days later adjust all over again to two. I agree that since you have an older child and know what life with a baby in the house is like, it would probably be a smoother transition also for you to bring both home at once than it would for a first-time parent.

BitterOldHag · September 2009

I would have loved to bring them both home together. It was really difficult to have one at home and one in the hospital. Every time I was home, I felt like I should be at the NICU and vice versa. Plus I needed someone to watch S so we could visit J every day.

Temp159135562506975 · September 2009

there is no way in hell i'd take one home and not the other if i had a choice.

i was fortunate and my boys didn't need NICU and came right home --- 2 babies is just as hard to get used to as one, IMO-- you can manage 2 at a time and will have to - what's one or two days going to do to help, other than making your other baby be alone in the NICU all that time???

My son, Gray, is in the hospital right now (since thurs) and it's killing us that we all have to be split apart to make sure someone is always with Gray here... and someone home with Gibby and Griffin. I'd give anything to have us all together.... even more so if my baby was in the NICU.

aniticipation · September 2009

I also can't imagine having to leave one behind so if I had a choice, I would definitely take them home together. We all went home together and needed help, but I think we would have needed help once the second came home anyway (if one had stayed behind). Good luck, it's a lot of work but such a wonderful time.

FaeryStarGazer · September 2009

Take them both at the same time. No point in getting accustomed to one baby just to bring the other home in a few days, and not visiting the other for a number of days? Oh hell no. Bring them both home.

laceymb · September 2009

Mine came home the same day and I'm so glad. I can't imagine leaving one there alone. I would NEVER have left one if I had the choice to bring them both home at the same time.

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