Am I just being a momma bear?
I'm not one to dwell on things, but for some reason this just kinda stuck w/me. Please let me know if I am just being stupid & if I need to just drop it.
On Saturday we were bored so we decided to walk around the mall looking for Halloween stores. On our way we passed by Old Navy & I remembered that their jeans were on sale for 11$ & Carter only has 2 nice pair (aka no holes in the knees!) so we stopped in there. I was unsure of the size he needs so we were in the dressing room for about 10 min trying to decide which was the best size. Once we decided I went back to the rack to choose what color/style we wanted. Somewhere in the middle of that dh said something like "I don't care, lets just get out of here." I said "it's not like we have anything to do today anyways" and his response was "The last thing I want to do is spend my day shopping for clothes for him." That kind of hurt my feelings. I wanted to rebuff with something but I didn't want to make a scene. We had only been in the store for 15 min. If it were his son that needed clothes would he have had the same reaction? To be clear I RARELY go shopping for kids clothes when I am with dh. I typically just take Carter when he get off from pre-school & go because i know my dh doesn't care for "that" kind of shopping. Anyways, because I felt like he was rejecting my son, it hurt my feelings. We are married now & his dad isn't in the picture. Carter didn't notice but I would hate for this situation to repeat itself when he is older & maybe feels rejected from my dh.
Am I just being a momma bear? Am I just making a big issue out of something that I shouldn't be?
Re: Am I just being a momma bear?
It's hard to tell. My guess is he just meant he didn't want to be clothes shopping, period. Had you been looking at things for yourself he probably would have said for you instead of for him. But, to be honest I probably would have taken it the same way you did and be a little hurt by it too. I would just ask him! Tell him, hey remember you said this over the weekend and it has been bothering me, this is how I took it. Maybe just point out that as DS gets older he may take it the same way so just to be cautious of those kinds of comments.
I would be a little upset too, but I don't think you should make too big of a deal out it.
My guess is that you are being sensitive because he used the word "him" and that your DH didn't mean to make it a mine v.s yours.ours issue.
I would give him teh benefit of the doubt that it was just about shopping, unless something similar happens again.
I can understand your feelings but I have a feeling that he didn't want to be shopping for clothes at all and the accent wasn't meant to be on "him" rather that he didn't want to be clothes shopping for anyone. I would either ask or I would drop it and move on. Guys don't like shopping. I have taken SD shopping at hre favorite store and DH stays in the car! I have also ordered clothes for her online just to show her and he could care less - and it is his daughter.