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DH slept on the couch last night
told me he want to seperate ! I'm at work and can't wait to go home and talk. He gets upset st silly things than he tells me he can't take it anymore. One Day I feel like it will be for real. Never like when we fight. Hope he does not mean it ! I love him !!
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Re: DH slept on the couch last night
I'm really sorry. That's rough.
I slept on the couch a couple of weeks ago and FI and I have been fighting a lot more lately.
Is there anyone who can watch your DD while you guys go to somewhere and talk? If you can, get a babysitter, go to a quiet restaurant and talk with no yelling, no drama. Try to lay it all on the table.
FI and I are still working through things, but we did realize that he needed more alone time. I had swim practice, but he was basically going from work, to us all the time. He goes to cheap night on Tuesday nights and watches a movie. It gives him some time alone.
I hope it gets better! Hang in there, having a baby adds a lot of stress to a relationship.
sorry. I def suggest some type of counseling. If he said he wants to separate then it's not good.
Good luck.
I agree. Separation/divorce should not be the the go-to button to push when someone is having a temper tantrum. And, if it is - then there are bigger issues here.
Good luck.
Agree. Please try to get him to talk with you at a time when you are both not upset. A new baby can add a lot of stress and there may be something else he is trying to work through. Good luck.
I'd definitely recommend counseling -- at least for himself and also then for you both. When I was struggling with trying to figure out my depression, etc., when DH and I would get into a really bad fight I would sit there and wonder how it was going to work. I would work myself up into such a state I would convince myself that it wasn't going to work and that we just needed to separate. I was upset, depressed, and scared -- I didn't believe I was worth the fight and that things could get better. I'm not saying it was right, but perhaps he is having similar issues?
DH and I have worked through my issues with respect to that, but that doesn't mean my anxiety/depression still doesn't get the better of me on occasion. I hope everything works out for you and you find some sort of peaceful resolution through this somehow.
Oh our first year after DS was our hardest. We were BOTH throwing around the divorce threats...not good at all. Once I realized I was seriously considering leaving him is when I called some counselors and got us in. He wasn't into it and swears it didn't help...but we're here today! I think he got some stuff out of it, and I know I did. I also kept going by myself for a while. Actually now that I think about it, I went by myself at first and then he went for a few sessions and then I went by myself again.
Bouncing back to our normal selves has been a ton easier now after #2...that initial change was just so hard for us and I felt like he never did enough etc etc. Now things are feeling pretty equal and we're both much happier.
Everytime I look at our pics from around that first year, I remember how hard things were for us...but you can still tell we love each other. I'm glad we toughed it out
Good luck to you!!!
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