When you decided to TTC...

SnowflakeBride06 · September 2009

was it the timing you had planned on?

Not that I can go back in time and change anything but sometimes I just wish we started TTC sooner.

Maybe its because my 30th birthday is in 2 weeks.....

No, I am not 'old' but sometimes I wish DH was ready to start TTC when I started to feel ready 2 years ago.

With that said, our relationship has never been better and so I feel like the wait was worth it.

I have just been feeling down about my tube loss that happened in June (the month we planned to TTC).

Could it have been worse timing?!

synchrosally · September 2009

I was ready a year ago when DH and I decided that I should go off BCP. But then DH wanted to wait, and wait, and wait, and he kept pushing the date back. Now we are finally both ready to TTC and I'm super excited! I'm sorry about the tube loss. Are you still able to TTC?

Abc15379 · September 2009

Kinda. We decided to start after our wedding, but at that point I still hadn't gotten my period back. After I did, my cycles were wonky for a while, and that kinda made me wish I had gotten off BC sooner.

charliebrown · September 2009

It was kind of the opposite for me. My DH was ready about a year ago but I was not 100% ready yet so we didn't TTC. He kept saying how he was ready because he's about to turn 30 as well! I didn't feel as much of the rush since I'm 25. Now that we have started TTC I am happy about it and glad we started when we did, one thing I wish I did though was stop BCP earlier just so i could figure out my cycle and all that jazz before hand. I'm so ready to get pregnant now that I don't want to wait to figure all this out. haha

GL to you !

Temp356619000002780 · September 2009

I was ready 4 years ago and to shut me up DH asked me to marry him, then I was ready again 2 years ago and DH bought me a puppy, now is the wrong time for us to try since I was laid off in 07 and have been laid off 4 times since then! Back then I was making great money! So no right now Is the worst time for us! But everything works out right!?

LnR70707 · September 2009

It was close to it, maybe a little sooner. We'd always said we wanted to be married for 2 years before having children. I started charting a few months after our first anniversary.

Mrs. Mo · September 2009

Yes & no. We knew that as soon as we got married we wanted to start a family ASAP. My brother is getting married next July, so if I don't get KU this cycle, we have to wait for a couple of months to start trying again ( don't want to be 8 or 9 months pregnant at their wedding as I will be extremely uncomfortable BM )

Also, it was a bit of a "deal" we had to make with FSIL as she didn't want us to start trying until AFTER their wedding as she didn't want any preg. BMs ( this was a long & drawn out fight that we won as we said that no one has a right to tell us that we have to wait a year to TTC for someone's wedding)

SnowflakeBride06 · September 2009

mari2003:
I was ready 4 years ago and to shut me up DH asked me to marry him, then I was ready again 2 years ago and DH bought me a puppy, now is the wrong time for us to try since I was laid off in 07 and have been laid off 4 times since then! Back then I was making great money! So no right now Is the worst time for us! But everything works out right!?

Well I was ready at 22 when DH and I started dating (we had known each other since were 10 years old) but I waited until we got married and the desire never went away....

I am sorry you are laid off, if it makes you feel better I am a grad student and make a measly salary, thankfully DH's salary carries us along.

SnowflakeBride06 · September 2009

synchrosally:
I was ready a year ago when DH and I decided that I should go off BCP. But then DH wanted to wait, and wait, and wait, and he kept pushing the date back. Now we are finally both ready to TTC and I'm super excited! I'm sorry about the tube loss. Are you still able to TTC?

Well I guess I wouldn't be on GP if I wasn't. My other tube took over (thats why it is good we all have 2 to start with). OB/gyn says my chances to TTC are as good as anyone with 2... still waiting to see if thats true as I start on cycle #3

mchupie · September 2009

When we got married in April we decided to start TTC right after Christmas of this year. At some point during the summer, I couldn't stop thinking about babies and we discussed starting earlier. I came off BCP at the end of August and I'm nearing the end of Cycle #1. I'm looking forward to getting a real period for the first time in 10 years.

SnowflakeBride06 · September 2009

Wow, not to judge but family or not I would be pissed if the bride told me I couldn't be pg and a BM. Its your right to start a family when its right for you and who cares if you are KU at a wedding it happens!

Joeypnut · September 2009

I wish that we had started trying much sooner, or at least that I had gotten off of BC as soon as we were married. I was actually the one that didn't feel quite ready (which surprised me because I have always wanted kids). I wanted time with just my husband though, and I am very thankful to have had that time.

SnowflakeBride06 · September 2009

Joeypnut:
I wish that we had started trying much sooner, or at least that I had gotten off of BC as soon as we were married. I was actually the one that didn't feel quite ready (which surprised me because I have always wanted kids). I wanted time with just my husband though, and I am very thankful to have had that time.

I can understand that, I think my time with DH was really good for us!

BoRnInToKaOsBaBe · September 2009

We just started TTC, I'm on cycle #2. I think the timing was perfect, we have been married for 5 years, we have our furbabies so we figured why not have a real one! Haha...My cousin in law (who is like a SIL) just told us she's KU and I would LOVE to have a baby with her. Now we just have to wait and see if that happens! I'm so close to my cousin and we're so close in age, I think it would be great to have kids on that same pattern.

MrsBraun · September 2009

DH was ready a year after we got married, I was not. Then, after about 2 years I thought I wanted to start because I was not sure where my career was going (bad reason, I know). Then I got a great job and wanted to wait another year yet...poor DH has been very patient with me. We were also still so young and I wanted to enjoy our marriage. We are now 25 & 24 and have been married for just over 3 years and I think the timing is perfect. Who knows how long it will take though!

CityGirl07 · September 2009

I think in terms of how long we've been married (1 yr in Oct) the timing is good. However, I kind of wish we hadn't waited so long to get married. We met when we were 26 but didn't get married until we were 31. Now we're both 32 and I wish I were starting younger...but what can you do? I'm not going to dwell on that.

I do wish I had gone off BC sooner just so I could get to know my cycle before actually TTC.

seells · September 2009

I wish I would've stopped taking BC right when we got married. But I think when we started trying was a good time. I just wish I had all the information I know now about TTC when we first got married.

illinigal · September 2009

I'm 3 years older than DH. I was ready to start TTC right after we got married in June 2007 when I was 30 years old... DH was only 27 at the time and wanted to wait a little while. I never even considered going off birth control until I knew we were actually going to TTC because I didn't know (stupid of me) that it could take awhile to regulate when coming off BCP. I brought up the idea of TTC again in spring 2008 and DH still wasn't ready. I cried about it a few times but knew I had to remain strong and wait until we were both ready. In fall 2008, we were both ready and I went off BCP. It wasn't until after I went off BCP and found GP that I learned about the horrors of coming off BCP and charting. I wish I would have found GP and learned all that sooner... if so, I would have stopped BCP before we were ready to start TTC. Now, we are almost at a year of TTC, and I'm getting depressed... thinking that we'd have a baby by now, especially if we started when I was ready.

tct1219 · September 2009

no i always plan everything ahead so i do it at the correct time. i told dh i would only do it if we ttc a year and a half ago and he said 'absolutely not'. then, because apparently i'm a huge pushover, i agreed to ttc this year beginning in january but i'm not doing it anymore. i'm not a 'things happen for a reason' person but if they do, i think that's why i didn't get pg. oh and of course, like i told him he would, he said he wishes he had listened to me in the first place.

i'm still tracking my cycles and stuff but since it's my body and i'm going to be raising my children, it's ultimately my decision [i don't go into his office and tell him how to do his job]. now, i'm waiting for him to agree to adopt.

high_hopes · September 2009

Yes. I stopped BCP the month we got married (May 2008) & we started TTC in September 2008. DH graduated in May 2009 & we didn't want to have a baby before he was done with school. Luckily everything has worked out for us...not that we planned it this way, but since we are due in October I will have the holidays off (I'm a NICU nurse), so it was an extra perk.

GL to you!

illinigal · September 2009

tct1219:

no i always plan everything ahead so i do it at the correct time. i told dh i would only do it if we ttc a year and a half ago and he said 'absolutely not'. then, because apparently i'm a huge pushover, i agreed to ttc this year beginning in january but i'm not doing it anymore. i'm not a 'things happen for a reason' person but if they do, i think that's why i didn't get pg. oh and of course, like i told him he would, he said he wishes he had listened to me in the first place.

i'm still tracking my cycles and stuff but since it's my body and i'm going to be raising my children, it's ultimately my decision [i don't go into his office and tell him how to do his job]. now, i'm waiting for him to agree to adopt.

What? Am I the only one that didn't understand a word of this?!

ccbanana · September 2009

illinigal:
tct1219:

no i always plan everything ahead so i do it at the correct time. i told dh i would only do it if we ttc a year and a half ago and he said 'absolutely not'. then, because apparently i'm a huge pushover, i agreed to ttc this year beginning in january but i'm not doing it anymore. i'm not a 'things happen for a reason' person but if they do, i think that's why i didn't get pg. oh and of course, like i told him he would, he said he wishes he had listened to me in the first place.

i'm still tracking my cycles and stuff but since it's my body and i'm going to be raising my children, it's ultimately my decision [i don't go into his office and tell him how to do his job]. now, i'm waiting for him to agree to adopt.

What? Am I the only one that didn't understand a word of this?!

You are not alone.

Clerk9 · September 2009

DH & I got married 5 1/2 years ago, but we were both in grad school at the time. I did 4 more years of school, then wanted to be working for at least a year before TTC. (But my clock started ticking about 3-4 years ago.)

DH gave me a card last Christmas that said he was ready to TTC. It was really sweet! But then I started getting jerked around by my job telling me they were going to get short-term disability insurance "soon" (no state insurance in VA, & we definitely could use the $ if/when I go on maternity leave). By July, when we STILL hadn't gotten the insurance, I went off BCP anyway. Silly me, I was hoping to get KU by my 32nd birthday in August! No luck with TTC, or the stupid insurance, so far.

It has been hard seeing just about everyone I know who's my age finishing up their families while I'm stuck at the starting gate. But DH has been such a good sport about the whole thing...really a lot more mature/understanding than I ever would have thought! I am so grateful for him & so thankful I will have a wonderful, loving partner, no matter what happens with the TTC journey.

Good luck with yours!!!

Mrs. Mo · September 2009

SnowflakeBride06:
Wow, not to judge but family or not I would be pissed if the bride told me I couldn't be pg and a BM. Its your right to start a family when its right for you and who cares if you are KU at a wedding it happens!

Feel free to judge away ( she's my FSIL,so technically she's not "family" yet...just going to marry my bro) !

I'm honestly not sure who's more p!ssed off by her...me or DH. She just doesn't understand that you cannot ask people to have their whole lives revolve around your one day. She's not God, so she has no right to even think she can tell anyone when they can or cannot start a family.

Ok, I need to stop here or this will end up being one huge b!tchfest of a post Smile

SnowflakeBride06 · September 2009

Mrs. Mo:

SnowflakeBride06:
Wow, not to judge but family or not I would be pissed if the bride told me I couldn't be pg and a BM. Its your right to start a family when its right for you and who cares if you are KU at a wedding it happens!

Feel free to judge away ( she's my FSIL,so technically she's not "family" yet...just going to marry my bro) !

I'm honestly not sure who's more p!ssed off by her...me or DH. She just doesn't understand that you cannot ask people to have their whole lives revolve around your one day. She's not God, so she has no right to even think she can tell anyone when they can or cannot start a family.

Ok, I need to stop here or this will end up being one huge b!tchfest of a post

Well you are better person than me, because I would have just gone for it and said screw it! GL dealing with her!

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