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WWYD?

rab41380rab41380 member
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So I think I made my decision to resign from my job in Jan.  I have a really successful career and have a high education that I have worked hard for.  I always thought no matter what i would always work, as I am driven to this by who I am.  Recently, I have been going through a hard time with work and mom, I feel like I dont even know my child, and she constantly gets sick at daycare, and I am just a mess.  DH and I chatted about this decision and he is supportive.  I have to bring in some sort of income, cause our mortgage is high, so I will be wokring PT for my mom and a friend.  I can bring DD with me, so its great!  The only dilemma I have is this guilt and worry, how do I get rid of it!  Have any of you taken a break from your career?
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  • EastCoastBrideEastCoastBride member

    I always think of that saying - something to the effect of "No one on their death bed ever said "I wish I had worked more"". 

    I like working, but MAN, I wish I would work PT.  I'm very jealous.  While I like my career, my DS is just so much more important to me.  I'm a million times more proud of him and his accomplishments on a daily basis than I've ever been of my job. 

    He is SO much more more a reflection of me and what I'm capable of than my job will ever be.    If I could go PT, I wouldn't feel guilty about it one bit.

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  • alisonadaalisonada member
    Hi - I understand your feelings although my situation is a little different. I left my FT job after 2 years of being a working mom, for what I thought would be a great PT position in my field. I ended up hating the job, and wasn't bringing home much at all since we still had to pay for 2 in daycare. I quit and SAH for 2 months, then took a PT serving job at a wine bar, working when my DH is home. It's sometimes exhausting to go to work after chasing after 2 little kids all day, but I really love the balance my life has now. It's surprising to me because I liked my FT job and didn't hate being a working mom, although I did have some of the feelings you describe. I didn't even think I really wanted to be home with them all day, but I can honestly say that I'm enjoying it so much more than I thought I would, and our lives are much less stressful. From what you say, I think you're doing what your heart is telling you to do and I don't think you will regret your decision. Note that I'm not saying that everyone would be happier giving up their career to wait tables :-) just sharing my experience in hopes that it might be a little reassuring to you.
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  • Temp159135562506975Temp159135562506975 member

    I will be part time when i return in November.  Same job- just 1/2 the pay (but i still get full benefits).  My job is not what i went to school for... I left that years ago (teaching) and have never felt bad about it b/c my life got better and better since I left.

    You have the rest of your life to use your degrees.... your child will only be young once- and if you feel you aren't getting enough time- then this is the only time you can get it. Don't worry about the job.

     

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