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Stay at Home Moms
How often do you get out alone or with DH?
Alone I go to the grocery store by myself on Mondays when DH is home to stay with the girls. Easier and I enjoy the time alone. I also belong to a Mom's group that meets 2 Fridays a month and offers free child care. I drop the girls off in their respective rooms and head upstairs for a couple hours of me time with the other moms. So fun!
As for going out alone with DH it's been woefully little since DD #1 was born. We've been out for anniversary dinners, a wedding, and Christmas shopping once but that is it for 3 years. I'm so glad now though because moving to a new state has forced us to get a local babysitter and we are going to make date nights a priority. We already have plans for a movie night in a couple weeks and after that we have a really nice Latin-American restaurant in mind for a romantic meal out. We are going to try and do something special at least every other month if not every month.
What are your escapes?
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Re: How often do you get out alone or with DH?
Once a month my dad keeps DD overnight, so DH and I have over 24 hours alone. It's really really really nice. We often just work on house projects or other boring stuff, but just being able to sleep in and have a leisurely cup of coffee after a nice breakfast is worth it. Sometimes we go to a movie, but usually we're too tired from working on our projects to go out. For us, it doesn't really matter what we do, it's more about being alone.
We didn't start this until DD was over 18mo though. Before that we had maybe 3 date nights.
When I was nursing, I hardly ever got out alone, or alone with DH. Grocery shopping and that's pretty much it. I weaned him about 2 months ago, and I thought I'd have tons more freedom, but it's not really happened the way I thought. I do some contract work that takes me outside the home, so I have to have a sitter for that. Technically, that counts as "alone" time even though I'm working. It is nice to just be alone even in the car when I do that. I've only had one haircut since DS was born- oh wait, make that 2. 1 pedicure that my mom treated me to and she walked around the shopping center with DS while i was having it-- that was heaven. point is, i can actually count the number of times!! that's sad!
We just left DS overnight with my mom a few weekends ago- for the first time. It was reallllllly weird at first, but I enjoyed the time with DH for sure. We need to do it more often.
I grocery shop alone every weekend, but that doesn't count.
I'd say I get out once or twice a month on average - whether it's alone or getting together with a friend. This past Sunday, I went to a baby shower and Ben stayed here with DH...and then on Monday night, I went to dinner with a friend. It was great. And after a pretty stressful week with Ben (he was in rare form), it was much needed.
DH and I don't get out too often together. Since having Ben, we've only been out to celebrate our birthdays and anniversary...and we had a wedding. Maybe 5 times total? Our anniversary is coming up again in a couple weeks and I can't wait for us to have some time - away from the kids. That sounded horrible, but you know what I mean.
I go out alone a lot. At least 1-2x per week. It's only for an hour or two.
I haven't been out with DH since right before DS was born - DS won't take a bottle and he's hard to soothe when he gets worked up.......
Me alone: every Saturday morning for grocery shopping and for 3-4 hours every weekend for a pedicure, shopping, a drink with friends or to see a movie or just to read a book at a local cafe. I also belong to a Bunco group that meets once a month and my Mom's Group meets up 2 per month for a Girl's Night In and a Girl's Night Out. So, it seems I get out alone a lot!
Before I quit my Health Club, I use to get alone time every.single.day for 2 hours: Emily would go to their daycare starting at 9 months old and I would work out, relax in the sauna and then, shower & get dressed for the day. It was bliss!
With DH: once a month when my mom visits, we get to go on a date night and we've had a pretty regular babysitter that comes once or twice a month so we can catch a movie or go shopping together.
It took a while to get a great, reliable babysitter though and to get into a good groove of sharing alone time between DH & I... probably a good 9 months after Emily was born!
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I get a fair amount of alone time when DH spends time with DS, my Mom's Morning Out and MOPS meeting.
Until recently, DH and I maybe went out by ourselves six times since DS was born---so this was over a 20 month time period. But we just got a great and reliable "drop-in" babysitter and now we schedule date nights twice a month!!!!