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When you have friends over to your house, do you....

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When you have friends over to your house for the first time, do you give them a tour of the entire house?  Is that the polite thing to do?  Or, is it strange? 

We moved to our current home last winter.  Its a good house, but needs lots of work and updating and we haven't purchased any furniture etc because we want to wait until we remodel to get stuff that "goes".  So, its very mismatched and cluttery for now.  Anyway, I'd like to have some friends over for playdates, but to be honest, I'm really kinda embarassed.  Can I have them over and just not show them the upstairs?  Or do I need to give a tour if this is their first time here?

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  • kittycarrkittycarr
    We give the tour if anyone asks for it.  I otherwise feel like a show-off.
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  • GrowingFamilyGrowingFamily

    imagekittycarr:
    We give the tour if anyone asks for it.  I otherwise feel like a show-off.

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  • DaiLyghtDaiLyght

    imagekittycarr:
    We give the tour if anyone asks for it.  I otherwise feel like a show-off.

    ditto 

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  • 4Speedy4Speedy member

    imagekittycarr:
    We give the tour if anyone asks for it.  I otherwise feel like a show-off.

    Do people really ask?

     

    Anyway, we gave a few tours when we first moved in because people were coming to see the house.  But we've been here 5 years now.  Even if it's a person's first time here, I don't give the tour, other than the places they might use (kitchen, bathroom, playrrom if it's a play date)  but it's not like a formal tour I lead.  I think it's a little weird to have people looking at our private living spaces.

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  • maxebook29maxebook29
    I don't unless they ask for a tour. But you really shouldn't feel embarassed. Everyone knows what it is like when you move to a new house and how long it takes to get everything how you like it. I certainly don't judge that kind of stuff when I go to friends' houses.
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  • BrewsterBrewster
    Never.  Our room is off limits to guests, but usually b/c it is a disaster.  And our house is around 2000 sf feet.  Not much to tour in my opinion.
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  • becoming_untiedbecoming_untied

    I don't do a tour per se, but our house plan is very open and you can see living room, dining room, kitchen, family room with out much effort.  I point them in the direction of the kids bathroom if they need to go and I might show them where the kids rooms are if thier kids are following mine there anyway.

    Our office, bedroom and master bathroom are ALWAYS off limits.

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  • Lisa102304Lisa102304

    If they are close, personal friends then I think a tour is okay if you want. If it is just a playdate (more casual) - then just show them the things they would need, bathroom, kitchen, etc.

     

    You can always say, "I'd love to give you a tour, but things are a little crazy upstairs with the move, remodeling, etc. When it is all done, I'll be happy to give you a tour!"  I don't think there is anything wrong with saying something like that. :)

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