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Twin related, but NBR: Anyone watch "Intervention"?

ErinCBErinCB
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My DH is addicted to this show and Monday night it was about these identical twin girls (well, women by this point) that were anorexic and had SERIOUS co-dependancy issues.

 On one hand it was really sad. On the other it was incredibly interesting.

It seems the parents played a large role in how the girls got the way they were by never treating them as individuals, but as if they were one person their entire lives. Gave us something to think about!

Anyone else see it?

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Re: Twin related, but NBR: Anyone watch "Intervention"?

  • ErinCBErinCB
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    Didn't see it, but there are 2 local twin men in my area like this.  They live together, dress alike, work together, literally do EVERYTHING together.  And it's not in a cute, normal way, it's pretty creepy.  MIL went to HS with them and said they pretty much kept to themselves because they don't need anyone else.  They were speakers at our MOM club once, and they kept reiterating how they don't want/need anyone else.  They've even estranged themselves from non-twin siblings, because they "don't need" them.  They actually get mad when people give them gifts that aren't identical, because they consider themselves one. 

    They also get into a lot of trouble, including trying to pretend to be the other twin when they get arrested.  BIL is in law enforcement and deals with them a lot. 

    That's a lot like the girls on the show, especially estranging themselves from their older sister.

    I just found out that a pastor at our church has fraternal twin boys. I NEVER knew her boys were twins until she told me after finding out about my twins. She said they just don't make a big deal out of it, especially now that they are older (10ish). At first I thought it was kind of crazy, but now I kind of get it. She just wants them to be individuals. They don't deny they are twins or anything but she just doesn't point it out all the time either.

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  • ErinCBErinCB

    That makes so much sense and it's just something I never really thought about! My twins will be b/g, so having their own identity will be a bit easier! But, the pastor told me that after a certain age, she stopped referring to her boys as "the twins". She said it was important to call them by their names.

    I've already started just saying, "the twins". Of course, they don't have names yet! But I'm going to try to be concious of this after they are born!

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  • ErinCBErinCB

     

    That's funny :).

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  • ppantsppants member
    It was a rerun.  It's so sad to see those girls like that.  That' why I'm so happy my are b/g so we hopefully won't have those competition issues later.
    Wendy Twins 1/27/06. DS and DD
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  • MrsARC1105MrsARC1105

    wow, this is very interesting.  I will have to find a rerun of the show.

    We try to call the girls "the girls", but I do say twinsies sometimes.  Their personalities are so different, hoping that will help people realize they are two people, not just one person in two bodies. 

     

    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker Mommy to twin girls, Ashlyn & Fiona, born at 34 weeks due to vasa previa.
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  • HilarighHilarigh

    DH and I were just talking about calling the babies "the twins". I'm not on board but he doesn't think it's a big deal to do it sometimes. I told him I didn't want to dress our kids in matchy matchy outfits or any of that stuff and agrees with that but doesn't see how calling them the twins suggests that they are not individuals or is detrimental.

    He's a twin and he and his sister were referred to as "the twins" or even worse "womb mates" throughout their childhood and were able to individualize just fine...womb mates even came out in a wedding reception toast, gag. I don't know, I just prefer to call them the babies or the kids.

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  • gingergrlgingergrl

    That episode was terrifying.  The parents compared the girls alot, and the father calling the one chubby or whatever it was....that was all big big mistakes.

    I am so obsessed with this.  I am determined that my girls will not be known as 'the twins' or whatever.  They are unique individuals.  We didn't give them matching names at all (HATE THAT), we don't dress them the same, we never ever call them the twins and don't let anyone else do it either.  Part of that goes back to losing my son and the fact that hearing them called twins is a bit painful due to the fact that originally they were triplets.

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  • ErinCBErinCB

    I don't think saying "the twins" sometimes is wrong. But the more I think of it, I could totally see myself saying, "Zach, the twins and I will...." or "Zach and the twins did this today..." when referring to them on a daily basis. And I could see how that would be a problem, for both DS and my future DS and DD. Like, Zach gets to be his own person. But the twins wouldn't? Or, the twins get to pal together, but Zach is alone.

    I'm not going to over analyze my every statement, but I'll try to be conscious of it :).

    Oh, and these girls' issues were so FAR beyond just being referred to as "the twins" (in fact...they may not have been referred to that way). They developed some serious competition issues between them, they were 20 some years old and still slept in the same bed, etc. So, I'm not suggesting any of us are damaging our children. It was just interesting and sad to see what happened with these two women.

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