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LoveMonkey1401LoveMonkey1401
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So hi I'm new to TTCAL. DH and I had just started trying when I got a BFP on cycle #2. It was an amazing feeling and a little bit too good to be true but we were so excited. I had been spotting but my dr said that sometimes women spot in the beginning but to check if it changes to red.....which it did. I was devestated, even though it was so early in TTC, I had just gotten excited and a week later I learned it was no longer. So that was about 3 weeks ago and I've been lurking in here and I'm ready to post. I've seen how supportive you all are in here and I think it's amazing how strong all of you are. I am ready to get back on the saddle and start again and I know I was lucky to get pg so early before but know that it might not be that easy the second time around. My dr. told me to avoid pregnancy this month and to wait for AF and then possibly wait another cycle to start TTC. She said definitely avoid this month to give my body some time and ideally not start until 2 cycles but if it happens next month then it's not the end of the world. We are trying to be good this month (have not used condoms in so long and not liking them but that's okay...).

So down to my question, how long did you wait to try again? I did not have a D&C so it was a natural m/c. I don't know what it is, but I am just so ready to try again and get back in the excitement of trying instead of focusing on the m/c. And also, today would have been my 8 week appointment and I'm trying not to think about it but it's been in my mind all day....

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  • HElizabethDUHElizabethDU
    I waited one cycle after my miscarrage.  Not to be a downer or anything, but I got pregnat the first month we tried, and now I am on cycle #11 since my miscarriage. 
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  • TapsalteerieTapsalteerie member

    Welcome!

    I am so sorry for your loss.  My pregnancy loss was late term, but I was told 2-3 months before we can try again.  I would go with what your doctor ordered and avoid TTC right away.

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  • JaimieLeeJaimieLee

    Welcome!  I hope your stay here is super short and your azz gets over to SAL asap.  To answer your question, truthfully we waited two weeksEmbarrassed That was when our DR said we could resume relations and we didn't take any measures to prevent it from happening. 

    I mean, I didn't use OPKs or anything, but we certainly BDed with abandon.  No luck, obviously but it was kind of a shot in the dark anyway since I had no clue when (or if) I would O. HTH

     

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  • LoveMonkey1401LoveMonkey1401
    Yeah we've been trying to at least wait until AF comes and then maybe not try but not prevent it...it's so hard because I just want to try again and I think about it every day. Last night we were not so good about protection and I've been having minor cramping (may be in my head who knows) and so I'm wondering if I'm O'ing? So of course we were not so safe last night and part of me is thinking I was not so good because I felt the cramping and the not so responsible part of me thought if it happens, it happens. I know I want to listen to the dr thought so I'm really going to try and be strong! I just am so beyond ready....as I know we all feel!
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  • rjl07rjl07
    Welcome!  I'm so sorry for your loss, but glad to hear that you are feeling ready to start trying again.  I waited one cycle after my D&C.  My first cycle was a little longer than normal, but they seemed to get more regular after that.  Good luck!
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  • Scout05Scout05 member

    I'm so sorry for your loss, and I hope you aren't here for long. We waited the dr. recommended 3 cycles.

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  • teulu07teulu07

    I am so sorry for your loss! Welcome to the board everyone is very supportive.. and protective of each other here. You have found a great group, but as the others have said.. hope your stay here is short.

    My dr said to wait one cycle after mc which we did.. I know all dr have different opinions, but I would try to follow what your dr said. Good luck!

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  • Ohio_WeddingOhio_Wedding

    I had a m/c in early August when I was about six weeks along.  My Dr. asked me to wait two cycles before TTC again.  It has been hard, but both of these cycles have been completely strange and unpredictable and so I am pretty confident my body has needed at least these two cycles to re-regulate (if it ever does). 

    But everyone is different.  I'm sorry for your loss, and good luck!

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