Reason why you should never judge a 13 yr old mom

applewonders · September 2009

I was standing in line at the supermarket today and noticed a young girl behind me looking through a magazine with her baby sitting in the cart. I take that the baby was at least 10-12 months old b/c she was able to say "mama". I was more taken by how cute the baby was than how young the mom looked so I commented on her baby and said, "Your little girl is so cute, she's adorable..." Then I realized wow, she looked awefully young to be a mom, but I didn't say anything in regards to that. A lot of people mistaken me for being a lot younger than I am so I just smiled at her and she smiled back. Then a snarky old lady standing behind her said in disbelief, "She's YOURS???" How old are you, 10???" I looked at the girl who looked like she wanted to cry. She responded, "No, I'm 13." Even I was floored! But hey, none of my business so I just went on with my groceries. But the stupid lady wouldn't give it up and continued, "Kids these days! Nothing better to do then screw around! Ugh!" And the young girl said, "She's a rape baby all right!"

Then the whole line went silent and the young girl stormed off the supermarket with her baby girl. I turned to the lady and said..."Next time you should just mind your own business, ok?" I was mortified and couldn't stop thinking about the 13 yr old girl and her baby on the way home.

krmlaw · September 2009

omg what a horrible situation and a horrible old lady

orion09 · September 2009

wow... thats sad.

lauralee1 · September 2009

How awful, some people do not know when to keep their mouths closed.

a_chance2007 · September 2009

i cant stand people who cant keep their mouths shut... that just made me gasp. i feel horrible i would just want to give the girl a hug and say im here for you.

judochop · September 2009

Wow...just wow.

I'll never know why people think it's their right to comment on stranger's lives, anyway. Good for you for putting that old snark in her place.

mrs.serrato85 · September 2009

=(

Its gonna be a tough life for both of them (mom and baby) not because shes a young mom but because her beautiful baby is a constant reminder of what happened

and when that baby grows up (if they tell her) I assume it will be hard knowing the situation that brought you life was one that caused your mother so much pain.

wifeypooh · September 2009

OMG, the poor girl.

TennisWife815 · September 2009

Wow! I kind of want to throat punch the old lady and now I think about all the times I've thought about how young a mom looks and can't help but feel bad about it.

Shellbelle22 · September 2009

The 13 year old sounds like she's really strong. And kudos to you for being classy about the whole situation.

katie_cj · September 2009

That's awful. I hate people who don't mind their own business.

applewonders · September 2009

mrs.serrato85:
=(

Its gonna be a tough life for both of them (mom and baby) not because shes a young mom but because her beautiful baby is a constant reminder of what happened

and when that baby grows up (if they tell her) I assume it will be hard knowing the situation that brought you life was one that caused your mother so much pain.

Everything you wrote is exactly what I thought about on the drive home. But just imagine...she kept the baby and gave her life despite of what happened. I honestly would have no clue what to do if that was me. My parents for sure would force me to give the baby up knowing how she was formed.

jenerally · September 2009

I wonder, because I am cynical, if that baby really was a product of rape, or if the girl has learned to say that due to old busybody know it alls who can't keep their mouths shut.

applewonders · September 2009

fredalina:
i am literally in tears. i hope the girl was really 19 and made up the age and rape story to teach old busybodies a lesson! (Mostly because i hate the thought of a 12 year old being raped, but also because i can't stand old busybodies).

I even thought about that, too. But she looked genuinely hurt. And why else would she storm off like that. Her face turned bright red and her eyes watery when she grabbed her baby and left.

applewonders · September 2009

jenerally:
I wonder, because I am cynical, if that baby really was a product of rape, or if the girl has learned to say that due to old busybody know it alls who can't keep their mouths shut.

Well...if that's the case, then she must have practiced that scene a thousand times b/c she was red in the face with tears in her eyes when she stormed off.

Heather577 · September 2009

Poor girl. Even if it wasn't as a result of rape...it's hard being a teen mom. My son was born when I was 17 (he's 14 now). I remember what it was like to go to school pregnant.

Deirdre18 · September 2009

Oh my goodness!! That old lady needs a slap in the face!

efortune · September 2009

That poor girl... I cannot imagine how hard that is for her, and I am sure she gets so many comments from people.

librarianlisa · September 2009

That is AWFUL. I hope that old lady feels really, really bad.

katypresson · September 2009

That's sooo sad.....I don't know if I'd be strong enough to keep the baby if I were in that situation. Mean old lady! I hope she felt awful!

CalinsBride · September 2009

That's the worst thing I've ever heard.

ETA: My only reason for questioning her story would be that I can't imagine that everyone in her life didn't strongly advise her to place the baby for adoption. It's one thing to give the baby life, but another entirely to let someone else's act of violence ruin the rest of your life. It would be hard enough to raise a baby who was a product of rape as an adult, but at the age of 13? Fact is stranger than fiction, though.

Trixie6717 · September 2009

I have an older brother and much younger brother and when the three of us would go anywhere people would assume we were bf/gf and had a little kid. It was ridiculous the comments and looks we would get. People are so judgmental.

in my life · September 2009

That poor girl, as if she isn't dealing with enough being a young mom, especially in that situation. I hope that lady felt like crap for saying that.

edwins_girl · September 2009

How horrible. That woman deserved a throat punch regardless if the girl was telling the truth or not, crap like that is so uncalled for.

Califragilistic · September 2009

WOW

MattysGirl81 · September 2009

How awful. People just need to mind their own business.

shannynhall · September 2009

And even if the girl was just screwing around, how does that have anything to do with her? Why should she make it any of her business??? Ugh!

sarcole530 · September 2009

Poor girl.

( What a terrible situation for her.

sweetyface77 · September 2009

That's so sad and what a horrible old lady. Seriously when are people going to learn to mind their own business. I'm glad you told her that!

sweetyface77 · September 2009

Trixie6717:
I have an older brother and much younger brother and when the three of us would go anywhere people would assume we were bf/gf and had a little kid. It was ridiculous the comments and looks we would get. People are so judgmental.

It's funny that you mention that because there were days that my dad and I would go out with DD when DH would be working (I was pregnant with DS) and the looks, stares and whispers we would get were so obvious that I found them almost comical. People would assume that my dad was my husband and DD was ours and I was pregnant again. I had an older lady come up and tell my dad that he should be ashamed of himself. I looked at her and asked why, because he's taking his daughter and granddaughter out to lunch? Some people can not help judging others, even when there is no cause for it.

Tadpole711 · September 2009

jenerally:
I wonder, because I am cynical, if that baby really was a product of rape, or if the girl has learned to say that due to old busybody know it alls who can't keep their mouths shut.

I thought this too but if it wasn't true for her it may be the case with the next poor girl the lady wants to lecture. I hope she learned something.

dreamast.romain · September 2009

judochop:

I'll never know why people think it's their right to comment on stranger's lives, anyway. Good for you for putting that old snark in her place.

This. I don't EVER say anything in that kind of situation unless asked.

Chrysallys · September 2009

jenerally:
I wonder, because I am cynical, if that baby really was a product of rape, or if the girl has learned to say that due to old busybody know it alls who can't keep their mouths shut.

I thought the same thing.

cindy453 · September 2009

how does a 13 yo get to the store alone with an infant? And where is she living, even if she has an infant, that she does the grocery shopping?

applewonders · September 2009

She's 13...not 6. If she lived nearby, I take that she walked? Or maybe there was someone waiting for her outside in a car? I looked inside the cart that she left and it was only a pkg of diapers and a can of formula...and gum. LOL

Sweeters04 · September 2009

OMG! Some people need to just keep their comments to themselves. I appluad you for saying something to her!! i would have done the same thing.

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