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Jodi&JoeJodi&Joe
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I have been thinking about your comment since you posted it.  The one about a teacher doing this.  And I would be LIVID if a teacher ever talked to my children the way I do.

So why is it ok for me to do it?  It's not.  Trust me, you aren't telling me anything I don't already know there.

I am going to try to remind myself to think "Would you be ok w/their teacher doing XYZ?" before I do XYZ!

So thank you for that example --- I think it will help.

I also just ordered the Positive Discipline 5 CD workshop -- I can listen while I'm driving to my audits.

And just so you can get a taste of the "real" me --- this is how I roll.  Unfortunately.  But I will take to heart what you say --- I will make changes.  But they are always temporary.  And then the vicious cycle continues.

I often wonder if I'm bipolar.  Never been diagnosed, even after asking two different therapists if they felt I was.  They both told me no. 

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  • YodajoYodajo member

    ((hugs)) to you, Jodi!  I love that you can get some harsh criticism and take something away from it. 

    Also, I can relate to your post below.  We have had some rough few weeks here.  I think I am going to run out and get the Playful Parenting book that was recommended to you in your post.  Oh, and actually read the Love and Logic book I bought last year, but never finished.  I think reading your post inspired me to do something instead of going to bed feeling like a failure every night!

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  • ridesbuttonsridesbuttons member

    Hi Jodi.

    I swear I am not calling you a bad person or a bad mother.  I am not cyber-yelling.  I am expressing an observation from my perspective, and if that has given you pause for thought, good.

    Change is hard for everyone.  And nobody expects a mother to be perfect, not if they are honest with themselves.  If you see that your behavoir is destructive, then you do have the power to change it. 

    I have a suggestion.  Tomorrow morning, before the kids get up, look yourself in the eye in the mirror.  Say: "I will not yell at my kids today.  I will not curse around my kids today".  Repeat.  Just one day of no yelling, no cursing.  I'll bet you can do that!  And if you can do it one day, then maybe you can do it another.

    I wish you the best.  It takes guts to say out loud our self doubts. 

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