RSVP or Regrets Only... which is better?

Allison777 · September 2009

I'm leaning towards Regrets Only. THoughts?

ladyalmalthea · September 2009

We had a couple of invites go to the wrong address and didn't find out until ashe called them asking why they hadn't RSVP'd- they never got the invite! RSVP definitely.

JennyAnne022776 · September 2009

I prefer RSVP. It's hard to get people to call you back. I would never want to assume that all of those "non-callers" were going to attend. You could end up with way too much food.

Harms80 · September 2009

Use Regrets Only if you want to make the assumption that those you don't hear from are coming.

Use RSVP if you want to make the assumption that those you don't hear from are not coming.

I like Regrets Only cause I'd rather have too much food/stuff than not enough.

pam1005 · September 2009

I always use regrets only. I find that I usually get a more accurate number when I use that.

hopefulmom · September 2009

I prefer RSVP. Like the one pp said...if they never get the invite you would be thinking they are coming. Also, people are so bad about not calling for either Regrets Only or RSVP that you could end up with a lot of food...like the pp said. You can't just assume that people are coming because they didn't call. At least with RSVP the host(s) would be calling those who did not respond and get a totally accurate count. This is very helpful if you are having a meal catered or at a restaurant.

jillms413 · September 2009

RSVP. I have thrown showers using both Regrets Only and RSVP and I will never do Regrets Only ever again. The only people that cancelled were two out of towners. So I had absolutely no idea how many people were going to to show up that day. Therefore I assumed everyone would come. Well it was about 20 people too much.

mamabearicson · September 2009

I do Regrets Only for everything and have never had a problem. I can honestly say i've hosted over 50 parties/events and RSVP's are a pain in the ass if you're having a substantial amount of people. I'm not sure why people don't RSVP and I don't want to have to call everybody to see if they're coming to something or not. It just seems easier for them to call if they aren't coming. We just did Regrets Only for my baby shower and everybody but 1 person that didn't regret showed up due to an emergency surgery and there were 80 people invited. Maybe it depends on the crowd but everybody that was invited to my shower is somebody i'm close enough to invite so I would know if they were coming or not anyway. It wasn't a gift grab of 3rd cousins neighbors co-workers that we haven't seen in 5 years but knows i'm pregnant sort of deal.

greengirl0909 · September 2009

Two showers I've had in the last year have been regrets only. Lots of people, didn't give regrets. If everyone knows they need to RSVP, I would hope you would get better responses. With no RSVP, you don't know if people are planning on coming, or just forgot to tell you they aren't. Just my thoughts!